Liza, if anyone tells you to "just get over it", just tell them to get f*cked (or whatever choice of words you desire). Just being depressed, or just being anxious, or just being forgetful... sure, you can actually get over those things, but these with other aspects combine to make PTSD, which nobody with PTSD can ever get over. I know what your saying, in that it doesn't matter what you tell people without PTSD, they will never ever get it. They can't grasp the concept, the feeling, the emotions, the internal torment, because they don't have it.

I believe the easiest way is, just don't try and explain anything to them. A spouse of PTSD sufferer can often find the words to explain things better than we can, because they see it from the other side, the side we can't explain.

Tell them to bite their backside and read some of the things upon this board that people have posted about what is going on within them. Most generally shutup about that stage.