Jen,

Yes, you are entitled to a little bit of 'you' time. You can't help your husband if you are unwell yourself. Good on you, golf is the thing, fresh air, exercise and a chat with the girls. Hard to wind down when you feel so anxious about them but you have to try and get past that. I know, I used to worry about Anthony all of the time and sometimes still do but it is in both our best interests if I get on with life. He used to get ticked off at me anyway if he suspected that I was just hanging around to keep an eye on him. Unwittingly, we can become babysitters for them if we are not careful. Best you can do is make sure he is alright when you leave the house, take a deep breath and go. They need supportive spouses, they already have a mum.

Your kids are grown, you contribute to the house via housework and the business and support your husband. You need to give YOU permission to have a break.

Sorry if I come across blunt Jen (it has rubbed off from my husband!!) but I just don't want to see you burnt out because your husband is ill. Everyone needs a break from time to time.