Anthony and Veiled, THX, I very much appreciate your ideas. Spent much of my day pondering and then this afternoon discussed my tendencies to be overprotective of our children, with husb. Your remarks helped refresh my memory of pers. past convers. w/ husb. (ie. his observ., sugg., should's and should nots) all regarding this topic.

We began discussing this today and hope to continue. I'll need his help on this one because, though I am more flexible w/ my children and they are involved in life I have many areas in which I am being overprotective. One of my challenges is w/ myself and my own thinking on this subjectt, as I'm becoming aware that much of it is faulty regard. just what kids should exper. and what they should not. Right now I haven't yet sorted it all out and still unsure exactly where I am making my mistakes, I just know and trust that I am especially after looking at this concern from a different perspectives. Husb. pointed out a handful of areas for me, in which I agree that I'm being overprotective. Also, he said, I told you this 5 yrs. ago, now it's too late. His and my discus. demanded much patience and toler. as though he has much good input, I have to figure out a way to hear it while getting past the critical and neg. spin on things.

Over the yrs. I did quietly and momentarily contemp. at times that perhaps I was being overprotective, but was still too defensive, and seemed to never find and/or take the time to really consider any other way than my own.

New day, new begin. much analysis ahead for me on this problem as I do love our two children very dearly and naturally want the best for them.