The Pitter Patter of Little Feet

[Marlene]

...or my hubby and I are going to be grandparents!

I posted originally about this in the PTSD only section. Needed to yell, shout, stomp and all other assorted things. I'm glad that I've gotten that all out of my system now.

It's been just about three weeks since I found out and now that the shock has worn off, I'm starting to get a little excited. My husband has beaten me there by about a week. He keeps dropping hints he'd like a boy so he won't be completely alone, as he puts it, 'In the Estrogen Ocean'. Me and two daughters. Hell, even the dog and cat are female.

According to our calculations, the baby should be born around the end of February. Just in time for mommy's birthday. And grandma's,too. I guess we couldn't ask for a better gift. My daughter has her first OB appointment tomorrow so we'll get a better idea of the due date. WOW...that's weird to read!

A friend at work took me out to lunch today to celebrate. We toasted grandmotherhood and all the possibilities to come. Can't wait to spoil the heck out of that baby! LOL

Lisa

[Kathy]

Congratulations Lisa, as I mentioned to you privately, I became a grandmother myself at 40 and I believe you will find it to be a wonderful new experience. Perhaps a chance to bond with your daughter in a new way as well, since you are both mothers now! My best wishes for a happy and healthy pregnancy.

[mouse]

Way to go Lisa, you will love being a grandmother and I am sure you will be a very good one, it is exciting times even if its sooner than you thought. enjoy it, the wheels are already in motion its gonna happen. besides you get to have the best job and you get to give back the baby when they are cranky or need a diaper change.

[She Cat]

Marlene,

I am glad that you have calmed down a bit, and have come to realize what a great time this will be for everyone. It will be tons of fun shopping, and picking out things for the baby with your daughter.

Congrats, and have fun doing special things with your daughter.

Wendy

[cookie]

congratulations lisa! enjoy that grandbaby!
cathy

[Damiea]

LOL I don't think my mom was very happy for awile when I got pregnant! But it is true.. we did bond as adults after going through it.. my mom was in delivery with me! And I can say.. having younger grandparents makes doing family trips and stuff so much more fun. You actually get to enjoy all the nonstop energy little ones seem so full of! or well.. most of the time you enjoy it LOL. Best of luck to you and your daughter and future grandchild!

[zoe]

Congratulations! Being a grandma is awesome! Enjoy every moment of it!

Zoe

[Lisa]

Oooohhhhh Congratulations!!! Babies are so great... they really make me see the joy of life, fun, playfulness, and innocence. I'm so excited for you!

I wish your daughter all the best with her pregnancy... as someone who's never been pregnant-- 9 months seems like such a long time to be pregnant (if you get what I mean!). Lots of time to get excited and prepare for the little one!!

[Marlene]

Yes, I'm looking forward to being a grandma now. There are still a lot of things we need to take care of, but fortunately we have months to do them in. The great-grands have thrown in their support as well.

The funny thing is that the baby is due right at my daughter's 20th birthday. This is the age I was when she was born. Little bit of deja vu.

She went to the doctor's yesterday. After her appointment she called me to tell me what happened. It hit a little bit more that it's really happening. Wow...my baby is having a baby. Unbelievable! LOL

Lisa

[nurse1]

Glad to hear that. Not only did you forgive her mistakes you made a complete turn around. I have known moms could get close to the grandchild because of feelings that it ruined their child life. And that is just wrong. Way to go!!! So glad to hear your surpportive of her. She needs you and that is family.

Just be sure and make her take a birth control shot as soon as the baby is born. Their is a very high number of teens that get pregnant a second time.

You sound like a very good mom. I bet you will make and awsome grandmal!!!!!:loopy:

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[Marlene]

Well nurse, I really couldn't really stand there and bitch her out for something that I did myself when I was 17. I just needed some time to come to grips with the whole thing. You always hope that your kids will learn from your mistakes and not have to make them for themselves. And it's hard to watch them make the mistakes anyway. Just part of being a parent.

All of the fussing and griping I did on the PTSD only post...she never heard or saw any of that. It was mine to deal with. And I figured it was better for everyone involved for me to get it out of my system and deal with it than stuff it and let it fester. Gee...maybe I can be taught after all. :-)

I and the whole family are giving her the thing I didn't get when I was 17...support and no judgement. It helped me a lot to feel that I've righted a wrong as much as I possibly could 22 years later.

Lisa

[She Cat]

Marlene,

We all need time to adjust to things that make us stop and take a step backwards. That was a huge thing for you to be hit with, and adjust too. You did fine!!!!!!

I am so happy for you. Glad that you are really getting excited, and that the grands are also getting there too. This is a wonderful time. Have fun, shop till you drop, and enjoy, enjoy, enjoy!!!!!!!

Wendy

[nurse1]

You sound like a very wise woman!!!! Thats really big of you not to judge. Its not the same situation but I have had alot of prolblems with my daughter lately. She not bad all the time she saves her mistakes for the big screw ups. She never talks back and always does anything I ask of her. Very well mannered.... But she makes huge mistakes. I judge her and let it be known to her. I too made alot of mistakes. I feel like I have raised her better. But I really get upset with her and say things I souldnt.
Different situation but really loved what you said. Maybe I can learn from it,

Loved how you handled it. That really what she needed. Understanding cause you know she is already terrified to be a new mom soon. I know I was at the age of 17 myself.

[Grama-Herc]

Marlene I need to say to you that I am so very jealous of you and your daughter. While the situation is not exactly what you would have liked, treasure every minute of it and the time you will share with your daughter. I do not know where my daughter is. I may be a gramma and not even know it. I don't mean to rain on your parade but I do want you to know how truely lucky you are that your daughter is in your life. You have a precious gift coming to you. That gift is the time you 2 will share and the closeness that will result from this. I envy the 2 of you and the relationship you have. Bless both of you--oops--the 3 of you

[Marlene]

Thanks, Herc. It's good to get a reminder (and even a kick in the shorts) of all of the good I have in my life. Including the newest thing in my life.

My daughter brought home an ultrasound picture a couple of days ago. Still a bit of a kick in the head to fully realize my daughter is going to be a mommy. I look at her and pictures of her as a little girl flash in my mind. I'm still in a bit of a bizarre place.

Lisa

[Marlene]

My daughter called me today at work and told me that she had had another ultra-sound and we found out the grandbaby is a boy! My husband is on cloud nine. I know he's just going to be impossible to live with now that there's going to be another man in the house. LOL

Everyone's really excited about this. Even the great grands (to be) got calls from my daughter about this.

Love getting happy news.

Lisa

[She Cat]

Congrats....Has he got a name yet?? LOL!!!!!!!


Wicked cool news Marlene.........I am so happy.

Wen

[Nicolette]

the grandbaby is a boy!

Congratulations Lisa and Hubby! How much fun will a grandson be and the best part is you can hand him back :wink:

I'm sure it will be a really positive life changing experience and I admire you Lisa for not projecting your own mistakes onto your daughter - it shows terrific maturity and good parenting :clap:

[Marlene]

Thanks Wen and Nic!

As for the name...my daughter wants to name him Damien. Every time I hear that I hear Robin Williams in my head talking about The Omen and saying 'Put the dog down, Damien'. LOL

Thanks for the kind words, Nicolette. Wow...that's a really nice compliment. Thank you.

And about handing the baby back to mommy, my husband has already started to make lists of how he's going to spoil the grandbaby. It our job, he tells me. And he expects me uphold my end of things. I think I'm up to it!

Lisa

[Nam]

Lisa,

That is so awesome!! Okay, I need to get back in the game 'cause I'm missing out on some good news! Your daughter is very lucky to have you and that little boy is going to be spoiled rotten! I believe that even though he's so little right now and inside his mama, he will thrive when mom is well supported and loved during her pregnancy. You are being a wonderful, caring grandma already for this baby! Congrats.

Nam

[veiled]

That is great news! Congrats! Guys always act so silly when they find out there is going to be another winky in the house. Has he run out to by the baseball equipment yet? I bet you both are just thrilled.

[Marlene]

Thanks, Nam. Even though we have six months to go yet, I'm starting to get into this whole grandma thing. Grandpa's been ready forever. Mr. Tough Guy turns into a big bundle of mush around babies! LOL

Fishing poles, veiled, fishing poles. We've already been to Wal-Mart to check out their supply of Snoopy fishing poles (Woodstock bobbers, too). I thought I'd have to physically restrain him when I told him it was too early to buy that yet.

Lisa

[Nam]

OMG, that is hilarious, Lisa! Your hubs sounds like my dad totally! He was getting bib overalls, fishing poles and farm stuff (dekalb and pioneer hats, boots, and feeding buckets) for my girls when they were first born. I thought it was a tad bit too soon....but you know, this past month, while I was in the NICU with Leo, the girls (Drama Queen and Princess, mind you) rode with Grandpa on the back of four wheeler, through a cow pie pasture to feed some of the livestock some grain. I was mortified! Where did they sit? He said they sat IN a five gallon bucket with the grain! :eek: So...well Drama Queen and the Princess also became farm hands!

[Lisa]

Wow!!!!! Awww a little baby boy called Damien....coar babies seem to be dropping everywhere at the moment! So pleased for you, and for your daughter!!! I think all grandparents have a job to spoil the grandkids too, and you're going to do a fine job! I bet you are all counting the days and weeks anxiously and eagerly!

[Marlene]

Nam-he's been 'chatting' with our grandson via mommy's tummy. I've heard him mention fishing a few times. Who knows what else is going on between the guys!

Lisa-we found out that a couple of my daughter's cousins are also expecting and due close to the same time. Funny thing was that when I was going through my pregnancies, I had SILs prego at the same time. Seems to be a family tradition for a number of mommies-to-be to pop up at the same time.

Lisa