anthony
12-09-2007, 07:42 PM
I thought I would go check out the drphil.com website, considering he is one person I actually do like because he has thrown out his theoretical bible of doctorate knowledge and instead uses his education with commonsense to get real solutions and workable outcomes. I found this piece to be interesting regarding supporting others.
Developing a support system
You have to be willing to ask for help. It doesn't make you weak; it's OK to let people give you what they can.
Be open and honest about what you need.
The benefit of a support system is that your whole network won't be down on the same day. When you really need support, someone will be there.
Expect ups and downs over the following months, but trust that the pain will gradually lessen.Giving support to a grieving friend.
Be available.
Remember that your friend is in a very different place emotionally.
If you're not sure what to say or do, just ask. Say, "Do you feel like talking about this right now?" If they do, be there for them.
If they don't want to discuss their heartache, don't press the issue. Let them know that you are there for them regardless.
Don't treat your friend like an invalid. Encourage him or her to get out and get busy doing day-to-day activities.
Be supportive, but not smothering.
Recognize that you may need your own support system. Sometimes you can give support, and other times you'll need to receive it. Don't expect yourself to always be the leader.
Watch out for a shift into depression. If you see your friend withdrawing into an emotion fetal position, it's time to intervene.Source: Drphil.com
Developing a support system
You have to be willing to ask for help. It doesn't make you weak; it's OK to let people give you what they can.
Be open and honest about what you need.
The benefit of a support system is that your whole network won't be down on the same day. When you really need support, someone will be there.
Expect ups and downs over the following months, but trust that the pain will gradually lessen.Giving support to a grieving friend.
Be available.
Remember that your friend is in a very different place emotionally.
If you're not sure what to say or do, just ask. Say, "Do you feel like talking about this right now?" If they do, be there for them.
If they don't want to discuss their heartache, don't press the issue. Let them know that you are there for them regardless.
Don't treat your friend like an invalid. Encourage him or her to get out and get busy doing day-to-day activities.
Be supportive, but not smothering.
Recognize that you may need your own support system. Sometimes you can give support, and other times you'll need to receive it. Don't expect yourself to always be the leader.
Watch out for a shift into depression. If you see your friend withdrawing into an emotion fetal position, it's time to intervene.Source: Drphil.com