Frankie
05-11-2007, 04:46 AM
Hello, I am new here, yesterday I was surfing the net for more info on PTSD and found this forum and I am so glad I did.
My boyfriend of 1 year has PTSD. He was part of the United Nations during the Rwanda genocide and after many years of progressive anger, sleepless nights, nightmares..etc...he went to see a doctor and they saw it was PTSD.
Finally, some help !! For the past 3 years he is seeing a psychiatrist and a psychologist. After reading so many of your different posts, I am realizing that the sympoms are so much the same as what he is going through right now ! He is getting better and of course there are bad days ! He is getting better because of the medicine (so many) and he is learning how to handle all the negative thoughts and anger he still has.
Having said all this, he is the sweetest, most loving, giving, caring, funny man I have ever met. And I am so proud of him for having come a very long way !
And yet, yes, I have seen some "anger" but he is doing so much to get better and I see the difference In him ! Mot importantly, he wants to get better !
Sometimes it is frustrating for me..I want so much for him to be less fragile, less weak, less emotional...but I have to constantly tell myself that what he is going through is because of the PTSD...I am sure and I know it is frustrating for him too !!
All I can do is be there for him and love him ! He says my love and understanding and patience is helping him a lot ! And I am grateful for that cause sometimes I worry about what he could do to himself ! Even though he tells me that he never considered suicide ! I still worry !
Sometimes, I do see him very very down, and I tell him to TALK to me, I want him to share his burden with me, cause by talking it out, it lessens the burden !
He does talk to me about his feelings, what he went through and what he saw in Rwanda, he describes me his nightmares, but he also is afraid and worried that I will feel upset and get down as he is. He wants to protect me (that is type of man he is) :smile: I keep on telling him, that as much as I am upset about what I hear, it can never affect me as it has affected him ! So he talks and I listen and hopefully that will lessen the burden ! We are sharing lots of laughter but also lots of tears !
I love him very much and I want to help him in any way I can !
Having found this forum will be of great help !
p.s. You should all be proud of yourself, for having come a long way ! God Bless !
My boyfriend of 1 year has PTSD. He was part of the United Nations during the Rwanda genocide and after many years of progressive anger, sleepless nights, nightmares..etc...he went to see a doctor and they saw it was PTSD.
Finally, some help !! For the past 3 years he is seeing a psychiatrist and a psychologist. After reading so many of your different posts, I am realizing that the sympoms are so much the same as what he is going through right now ! He is getting better and of course there are bad days ! He is getting better because of the medicine (so many) and he is learning how to handle all the negative thoughts and anger he still has.
Having said all this, he is the sweetest, most loving, giving, caring, funny man I have ever met. And I am so proud of him for having come a very long way !
And yet, yes, I have seen some "anger" but he is doing so much to get better and I see the difference In him ! Mot importantly, he wants to get better !
Sometimes it is frustrating for me..I want so much for him to be less fragile, less weak, less emotional...but I have to constantly tell myself that what he is going through is because of the PTSD...I am sure and I know it is frustrating for him too !!
All I can do is be there for him and love him ! He says my love and understanding and patience is helping him a lot ! And I am grateful for that cause sometimes I worry about what he could do to himself ! Even though he tells me that he never considered suicide ! I still worry !
Sometimes, I do see him very very down, and I tell him to TALK to me, I want him to share his burden with me, cause by talking it out, it lessens the burden !
He does talk to me about his feelings, what he went through and what he saw in Rwanda, he describes me his nightmares, but he also is afraid and worried that I will feel upset and get down as he is. He wants to protect me (that is type of man he is) :smile: I keep on telling him, that as much as I am upset about what I hear, it can never affect me as it has affected him ! So he talks and I listen and hopefully that will lessen the burden ! We are sharing lots of laughter but also lots of tears !
I love him very much and I want to help him in any way I can !
Having found this forum will be of great help !
p.s. You should all be proud of yourself, for having come a long way ! God Bless !