Grama-Herc
08-12-2007, 01:04 AM
Apparently before my daughter up and disappeared she had an issue with me trying to explain to her our family history with mental illness.
The entire family on my mom's side have "1" form or another of mental issues. It was passed down by my grandfather to all 7 of his children. Many of the 1st and 2nd and even 3rd generations are afffected and have issues of some form or another.
Now that my daughter and I are beginning to repair and rebuild our relationship I'm just not sure if I should ever even touch on this subject again. She knows it all, or most of it, and my sense is to simply leave it alone.
This is "1" reason, I think, why I am freaked out over everything. To me, this is important informatin to share. Especially now that there is a grandbaby to consider. My mother was clueless all those many years age when I was growing up that there was a problem. People just did not think about or talk about mental illness and in children it just was not a consideration. I know the signs, signals and what to look for if a child is in trouble, and my concern is only to help. My daughter is affected whether she will admit it or not. I want her to go into therapy before she follows in my footsteps--"4" bad marriages. She was with me for all "4" and children learn what they see and I am concerned about
So tell me that I just need to leave it alone and enjoy our reunion. Tell me to mind my own business. Tell me she is 38 and a grown woman. But most of all, reassure me that eventually she will want more info on this family problem and I can THEN share my concerns and knowledge with her.
Grama Herc is waiting for you guys to give her feed back on this. You guys have always been right on the money when you express your opinions on things. Do't let this be any different THANX
My sense is--the answer to this delimma is clear----KEEP MY MOUTH SHUT untill she begins to ask questins about this . Now is not the time! ! ! ! ! !
The entire family on my mom's side have "1" form or another of mental issues. It was passed down by my grandfather to all 7 of his children. Many of the 1st and 2nd and even 3rd generations are afffected and have issues of some form or another.
Now that my daughter and I are beginning to repair and rebuild our relationship I'm just not sure if I should ever even touch on this subject again. She knows it all, or most of it, and my sense is to simply leave it alone.
This is "1" reason, I think, why I am freaked out over everything. To me, this is important informatin to share. Especially now that there is a grandbaby to consider. My mother was clueless all those many years age when I was growing up that there was a problem. People just did not think about or talk about mental illness and in children it just was not a consideration. I know the signs, signals and what to look for if a child is in trouble, and my concern is only to help. My daughter is affected whether she will admit it or not. I want her to go into therapy before she follows in my footsteps--"4" bad marriages. She was with me for all "4" and children learn what they see and I am concerned about
So tell me that I just need to leave it alone and enjoy our reunion. Tell me to mind my own business. Tell me she is 38 and a grown woman. But most of all, reassure me that eventually she will want more info on this family problem and I can THEN share my concerns and knowledge with her.
Grama Herc is waiting for you guys to give her feed back on this. You guys have always been right on the money when you express your opinions on things. Do't let this be any different THANX
My sense is--the answer to this delimma is clear----KEEP MY MOUTH SHUT untill she begins to ask questins about this . Now is not the time! ! ! ! ! !