PTSD and Marriage - How Many Times Have You Been Married?

[sunnydaze]

I am on my 3rd and finally got it right. The 1st was right but I was to immature to appreciate what I had till, I lost him. Second was a nightmare surely made me appreciate 3rd.
sunnydaze

[Grama-Herc]

My marraiges

I have had 4 and seenm to be stuck on the number 7! 1st one lasted 7 months, 2nd one lasted 7 years, 3rd lasted 7 months and the last one--biggest disaster of all 7 weeks! I was single between # 3 and #4 for 13 years. #4 was a scam artist who was of the impression there was money around. He thought he had a pigeon with $$$$$ Boy was the joke on him! LMAO He saw me and my weakness and I'm sure I was acting emotionally needy

He was a true con artist cuz he even fooled my mother and that is hard to do! It didn't take me long to catch on and I threw his ass out in a big hurry.

My therapist has given me permission to not have men in my life. Which is ok with me. Besides, if I get the urge for a man in my life I'll just get another cat.

Someday I will go into the other 3 marriages and what they were all about

[batgirl]

Where's the poll part? Anyways, I have never been married, yet... I hope though that when I do get married it is the first and last time, like my parents!! It sounds tough to be married more than once.

[Marlene]

I've been very lucky or I married the right man first time out...or both, but I'm on my first marriage and it's lasted for 21 years. PSTD tested it pretty hard, but everything held.

I always joke that I don't have enough energy to train up a new husband, but I'm thankful every day that I've had with my hubby.

Lisa

[She Cat]

Only once......OMG Herc...Lasted 7 years too. 7 years of hell... Thanks but NO THANKS. Would rather live alone till the day die....

[hodge]

I'm on my 2nd marriage. First one lasted 8 weeks. Now we've been together 10 years - the longest time each of us has been in a relationship.

[sunnydaze]

As I said in one of threads, my 2nd I got married on my birthday and 8 years later divorced on D day. Always celebrate the divorce. Sorry about the poll, i thought I was doing it never have before. I will learn.
sunnydaze

[sunnydaze]

Too funny on the 7 years. They say if you get past the 7 yr. itch, you might make something long lasting. It didn't help I waited and gave it an extra year. Sorry about the poll mix up
sunnydaze

[Kathy]

Sunnydaze, I added a poll for you. I hope the options are as you wanted.

[2quilt]

married once, but in love many times.

[sunnydaze]

Thank you so much. It is amazing just with the few who voted 1time and 3 are 50/50. This will be interesting at least to me
sunnydaze

[empowered]

Married once...I was 18 he was 20, we have been married 31yrs in Feb.

[ruddy]

Married twice - divorced and widowed.

[anthony]

Ohhh.... good poll sunnydaze.... Mine was twice.... can apply for divorce from the second one in a week....

[lrs]

Just once, still married, will be 22 years in June.

[sunnydaze]

Wow guys, I thought the poll would be more marriages and divorces. I'm starting to feel like a real loser. I thought most people going throught this PTSD did like me making poor choces. I am glad many of you found partners that stayed with you through thick and thin. Never thought the poll would have this outcome. To me : L
sunnydaze

[Chissi]

I was married 27 years; divorced since 1993. One two year relationship right after divorce. Thank goodness I didn't marry him!

Chissi

[morgan]

I've been in 4 commited relationships, 3 of them cheated on me which in turn triggered me and the last one abused me mercilessly. I'm pretty much done with the whole idea.

[baileysemt]

I can't trust enough, get intimate enough, to get anywhere near marrying someone...

And I can't see the logic in even dating someone, before I am healed and healthy. Otherwise my problems are just going to seriously screw up the relationship.

So, I am still single, with no prospects. :)

Bailey

[grace5555]

awww, Bailey - you are in my mind...scary place to be. lol I can't even handle dating - how in the hell could I be married...then screw him up? No, guess not any time soon.

[TDurden1937]

I've struck out enough to end the inning in a baseball game. Seems I figured that every time I "feel in love" I should get married.

Married to my third wife again now. How I ever managed to mess up my domestic life is still rather a mystery to me.

I think that after I got out of the navy, having become toxic from that, and my bloody ****ing father, I should have taken the vows and never gotten married, but gone into the priesthood or something, eh. But then I never would have had my son, the best thing I ever did for the bloody world, eh.

Some people should never marry . . . I was one of them. Think I must have used it to keep from facing myself. I always found that when I was single, my demons were stark, easier to see, not pleasant, but also easier to deal with then, eh.

But the feeling of comfort so implicit in falling in love was . . . is such a comfort. Unfortunately, the bliss is too short lived in me. Then the PTSD'd kick in an I'd go numb.

[indigo~in~0z]

im on my first almost 6 years..

nightmare almost on a daily basis..

if this one doesnt survive tho, i aint goin back for more.... the only thing i want is freedom!