Just Diagnosed - My Spouse is Triggering Me

[ecenglish]

my name is eric and i'm 37 and was just diagnosed with ptsd and clinical depression. the question i have is somthing my spouse is doing is the trigger for my ptsd.she doesn't think that she is triggering it. i have asked her to stop and she doesn't think she should. what should i do?

[Seeking_Nirvana]

Hi ecenglish, and welcome to the forum. Have your spouse join the forum and read through the posts so that she can understand how important it is for you to stay healthy.

Tammy

[oneosiwife]

Hi. Iam new too. But I am the wife of a sufferer and wonder if I could be triggering my husband without knowing it. What is it that she is doing if you don't mind my asking? Have you seriously talked with her with raw emotion about what she is doing to you? I ask because I cannot imagine my doing something that my husband has clearly told me hurts him. Could sjhe be doing this without intention? Or could I be doing something that triggers my husband and he is not telling me where I could have a chance to help? That would kill me if I knew I could do something or stop doing something and that would help my husband.My name is Christy and let me first say Thank You for your service.

[indigo~in~0z]

my husband has always been a trigger & instigator of my ptsd also..

mostly out of misunderstanding & ignorance/arrogance to his own dysfunctional upbringing & therefore has trouble controlling it...
he is aware on the surface that he is really terrible for my illness... but he doesnt truly get the impactual longevity of his behaviours on y psyche...
i cant heal my old traumas because im trying to cope on a daily basis with my new [re?]traumas from him...

maybe she could go to counselling with a specialist or yes if she was committed to the effort, she may choose to read the forum here?