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My daughter was molested by a priest as a little girl. Didn't cause her PTSD. However. She's had problems associated with it. Wife and I have been searching for the man for a time. Got the runaround from the Church on his location. Infuriating but to be expected. However. Finally we found the bastard. He is still a practicing priest, still working around kids.
As part of our search for him, contacted other parents of kids under his care. Many we spoke to (parents and the kids) want to press charges. Especially so one couple whose son has committed suicide since the molestation. So. We have banded together to hire a solicitor and have him served.
My daughter is very upset over it. She agreed to write a sworn statement to the court of what went on. Other than that she wants no part of it. Her decision of course. However. We as parents still wish to be involved in the case. So. Question. Are we crossing a boundary of our daughters by being involved? All opinions welcome. She is 24 years old.
Jim.
upstream
27-04-2008, 04:10 AM
Are we crossing a boundary of our daughters by being involved?
Jim, I think Evie is the only one who can answer that.
You have every right to be angry and want to press charges. You'd probably save some children from future molestation in the process.
Jim, I don't think you're crossing any inappropriate boundaries. The only one who did was that priest.
Just clarify with your daughter what you all want, need, and are willing to do. Let her guide you -- she is the one who was assaulted. If she says No more, then I hope you will honour her wish. She might change her mind; she might not.
You've got other parents who can be supports and friends through whatever actions you choose to take.
Bless you and your wife for being protective, loving, assertive parents!
Roo :Hug_emoticon:
Jim, I think Evie is the only one who can answer that.
Yep absolutely though she won't speak to us about it at the moment. Which is why we would like input from others.
Should have added - because of my position- I have certain contacts. Which may be helpful to the case. So. I am valuable to the case in that sense. ;-) And yes, would love to see him pay for what he did and save other families and kids the grief. Thank you for the input, much appreciated.
Jim.
Bless you and your wife for being protective, loving, assertive parents!
Much appreciated Roo. We will keep your advice in mind definitely. For when she is ready to chat with us.
Jim.
upstream
27-04-2008, 04:21 AM
Well, my father was always trying to talk me out of exposing my boss and reporting him, and later from filing a law suit. I wish he had done the opposite, that he had fought for me and my rights. It often felt like he was fighting for the wrong side.
I wish he had done what you are doing. I know my situation is different, and I'm not Evie, but it's what I wanted. I hope that helps, keep us updated.
Good to know your personal experience Upstream. Thank you for sharing, much appreciated.
Jim.
Another thought, Jim -- your daughter and your wife might also want to make use of this forum. It is packed with experience, wisdom, and good practical ideas.
Glad you have some contacts...people who can perhaps "keep you in the loop" if your daughter wants no involvement. You and each member of your family are likely to have very different desires about what to do now that the man who assaulted your daughter has been found.
Keep talking with each other...keep checking in. One day at a time.
Another thought, Jim -- your daughter and your wife might also want to make use of this forum. It is packed with experience, wisdom, and good practical ideas.
Thank you Roo, though my wife and daughter are already members here - batgirl (daughter) and wife Kathy. Kathy was the Carers editor in this section until she had a heart attack. Recovering well at the moment though still not ready to return as editor. My daughter was active on the forum for over a year however has "outgrown" it so to speak and moved on to other things.
Glad you have some contacts...people who can perhaps "keep you in the loop" if your daughter wants no involvement.
Yep thank you good idea. I will cease involvement if that is Evie's wish, definitely. Much appreciated once more for your thoughts.
Jim.
becvan
27-04-2008, 05:14 AM
Jim:
I can only speak as to my feelings and experiences being a rape victim. For me, this would be crossing a line. It would be one thing if this was initiated as a child, but as an adult it's just more victimization. Having family decide to prosecute this, which would be dependent on my testimony, would be stripping me of my privacy and my rights. The only person that has the right to push rape charges forward is me, whether I was a child at the time or not. It would affect me and greatly.
However the fact that he is working with more children is very troubling. I think you are in a rock and a hard place here. If you don't go forward, you know that the chances of more children being hurt is very high. If you do go forward, you could be stirring a hornet's nest you may regret. I feel for ya here.
I would like to point out something. If she has made a sworn statement to the police she can be compelled to testify. What I mean by compelled is held in contempt of court if she doesn't. Unfortunately, this is happening and quite often. (personal experience with this one)... Whomever is prosecuting, I would have a long chat with them and see where they stand on this. If they will compel her to testify, it could be quite the mess. If not, then consider yourselves lucky.
Wish the best for you in this.
bec
Much appreciated Bec. Good points for us to consider. Interesting you find it crossing a line. We do obviously need to discuss it more with Evie once she is ready.
Yep we have considered the legal ramifications of her submitting a statement. She is aware of the possibility of testifying. However. There is some doubt as to whether she could be served or no, as she is no longer a resident of Canada. Uncertain the Canadian government can force her to travel back to Canada to testify whilst she is living overseas. So that matter needs clarification.
And yep very troubling that he is still allowed to work with kids. We want justice for our daughter and the others, as well as no more suffering. Difficult to just walk away from this, regardless Evie's feelings. In any event much appreciated for the input.
Jim.
Nicolette
27-04-2008, 10:53 AM
Perhaps my experience can help Jim as I have been in both situations - one where there was prosecution and one where there was not.
In one situation where I was assaulted I was encouraged by both therapist and the police to press charges. As the police reported the incident they decided, whether I liked it or not, to press charges. Basically, it was on my behalf even though I was petrified of the process and what it would involve. They said they had a duty to the community now that they were aware of the situation. So, I was in a similar situation as Evie however it was the police instead of parents who prosecuted.
It was a horrible ordeal but the thought that held me together through the ordeal was that prosecution could possibly save someone else being in the same situation and possibly a life.
In the other situation, I was sexually assaulted by a superior at work. It was strongly recommended to me at that time that I did not take it outside the organisation as I didn't want to publically embarrass a silly old man who would have lost his superannuation entitlements as they would be forced to fire him. Funnily enough this was even after he admitted to committing the offence.
While the organisation I worked for tried to deal with it in house and there was no prosecution, this situation caused me more long term pain. It was easier not to prosecute short term as I didn't want to go through the humiliation over and over. Afterwards, it ate me up for years and years when I came to the realisation he walked away with a slap on his wrist and I lost my job as I was seen to be the problem as I caused disruption despite him being the one who had offended. I also had to live with what he had did to me feeling there was no justice where at least in the other situation there eventually was some. Nothing can take away the pain and suffering but some peace can be found in knowing you did something about it.
As Evie is a friend I would not want her to suffer any pain and can appreciate her position. After living both sides, my opinion would be for you to go ahead and prosecute Jim. Reality is Evie has suffered and it is not fair for her to suffer any more however by doing something about it you can protect future innocent children from the same terrifying experience. That is something for Evie to be proud about - that she could do something to stop him.
My thoughts only............
Nicolette
27-04-2008, 11:27 AM
Whomever is prosecuting, I would have a long chat with them and see where they stand on this. If they will compel her to testify, it could be quite the mess. If not, then consider yourselves lucky.
I have been in this situation too and don't totally agree with what Bec is saying. While I agree testifying can be "quite the mess" for someone it may not be for all. Testifying petrified me but the prosecutor was very good with me before hand and while in court they were very patient with me when I was a blubbering mess. It ended up being very freeing as you can let go of a "secret" and a "bad thing" which happened to you. By freeing I mean other people agreeing that what was done was wrong and no longer feeling bad in myself for what had been done to me. It was a bit like legal empathy if that makes sense. While our justice systems may not always be the best, it helps being told someone who hurt you was wrong for doing so by something seen to be powerful which represents justice. While family and friends may say the same things it is hard not to think they have a bias :rolleyes:
One thing I will add is that I don't have PTSD like Evie so I am not sure how that changes things.
Thank you Nicolette, much appreciated for your thoughts as well. Very interesting to hear your personal experience regarding 2 situations which turned out differently and how you felt. Believe were it me, would feel better sticking up for myself too. More painful to let it slide. Makes perfect sense.
Believe I have an idea how Evie feels about us being involved, though she hasn't told us yet. However. Worry sometimes that she will agree with us - especially myself - just because she loves us. Sometimes my daughter is less than forthcoming with us and more apt to want to please. So. I did wish for the responses of others in any event. Good to hear all sides.
I'm with you Nicolette. Best tackle problems head on. Confront abusers and so forth. However. Strength is needed to do so, also support. And. As you also say, we don't have PTSD. Who knows how badly one feels with PTSD. Might be too much to handle. I don't pretend to know, that's for sure.
Much appreciated once more. Very good thoughts.
Jim.
Anewme
27-04-2008, 12:49 PM
My duaghter was molested and he got away with it she was 12 when it happened and 17 at trial she is now 26 and a mess although we have tried our best to help her - NO GO....now I am watching her throw her life away and her 2 daughters. So frustrstion is greatly understood. Sometimes you just have to wait.
Welcome to the forum Anewme. Sorry to hear of the troubles with your daughter. Can relate certainly, as I have been through rough times with my daughter as well. She ran away for 5 years - age 17 to 22 - no contact with us during that time. Terrible pain from that. However. She came back to us and is much improved. I wish you all the best with your daughter and welcome once more.
Jim.
Can charges be brought without Evie's testimony, such as on other incidents? That might be something she would like to know, too. I know if I were considering prosecuting, it would depend on whether or not it could be done without me.
There are 2 others willing to testify. However. Evie's experience was more severe than theirs. So. He may get a lesser charge without her testimony.
Jim.
Nicolette
27-04-2008, 04:10 PM
Men like that should rot in hell! :mad:
Think my sons and myself would like to give him a taste of hell here on earth. Must say, being back in Canada on a business trip currently, I am having to contain myself. As I now know where he lives.
Jim.
Nicolette
27-04-2008, 04:25 PM
Well, I guess you then have an option if justice does not prevail. :rolleyes:
Can't blame you for how you feel Jim. Evie's only a friend and I want to see him punished let alone feeling like a parent. It's disgusting.
Yep. Only reason I'm calm at the moment is because I've known for over a year. Wasn't so when I first found out let me tell you.
Jim.
Tessan25
27-04-2008, 06:29 PM
Hi Jim!
i speak as a rape victim that you really should be careful with you dougthers wishes
it her you put on the stand
unfunertly its the victim that have to go trhough all the mess again..
with a lot of shame and feelings to belong with it..
so dont pusch your dughter to anything
send her to some conselleing and make the teraphist leed you along the way
im sorry to say it will be a road that have many bumbs and turns but with the right support the road is going to be lighter..
i send you the warmest hug i can give you and your doughter
i feel for you all
and feel free here to ask us anything here
we are a lot of victims am sad to say
but we all in here wishes you the best of luck!
Tessan
Cowgirl
28-04-2008, 12:54 AM
My daughter is very upset over it. She agreed to write a sworn statement to the court of what went on. Other than that she wants no part of it. Her decision of course. However. We as parents still wish to be involved in the case. So. Question. Are we crossing a boundary of our daughters by being involved? All opinions welcome. She is 24 years old.
Jim.
OUCH! This is difficult, Jim. I'm in the legal field, but not in your country, so I cannot comment about the laws you are dealing with.
The Catholic Church did the same thing in the USA, moving priests from parish to parish when the priests were caught molesting children. It temporarily saved face for the church, but it gave the predators a whole new crop of unsuspecting victims.
Personally, if parents came to me with such a case, I would talk to them sympathetically. But if the victim was not on board, I would not take the case. First, it would be virtually impossible to prove the case against him without her cooperation. Second, even if I could prove the case without her cooperation, if she is not ready to pursue the case against him, it could be damaging to her emotionally and I would want no part in that. I went into this profession to help people, not to harm them.
I fully understand your anger. If that was my situation, I'd have to work very hard at not shooting the SOB, honestly. :wink:
But ultimately, she was the victim. Yes, you feel victimized too, as you love her and you dealt with the fallout from the priest's crimes. But she was the victim. And ultimately, it is her needs that should be respected.
I would counsel you to take a back seat in this case. Let other victims pursue it.
Hugs,
Cowgirl
Thank you Cowgirl, much appreciated. Though believe you misunderstand the nature of my involvement here. I am not speaking for my daughter. She and the (so far) 5 others who have agreed to write statments or testify are the ones pressing charges. We as parents are doing other things. Such as. I have contacts which are helpful. My brother is a higher official in the Church, and he assisted us (unofficially) to find the man, and is continuing to give us some general advice. The solicitor the kids have hired is a longtime friend of myself, and his firm has done other clergy abuse cases previously. I am contributing a large portion of his fee. Currently we are looking for other victims. That is the main work of the parents at the moment, to find more parents and kids. The priest in question is older so there may very well be hundreds. Just received an email this morning from a boy in my daughter's class, also abused and also willing to participate. So. No. I am not doing any actual legal aspects. I cannot.
My question here was not a legal one. Rather it is was - am I crossing a boundary with my daughter, as a PTSD sufferer. Legal advice, I have lots of that. No worries.
Jim.
anthony
28-04-2008, 11:24 AM
Question. Are we crossing a boundary of our daughters by being involved? All opinions welcome. She is 24 years old.
Jim.
As a parent myself, I would say no. If I wasn't a parent I would likely be on the other end, in that it being her decision. I guess one of those things you could only understand when you have a child, that bond is stronger than just about anything else, and you will go to the end of the earth in order to protect them.
So knowing what I know now.... I personally think it is the right thing to do. Evie made her choice by stating she wants no further part in it, which is a good active decision on her behalf, but must obviously respect your decision as parents to want justice for an act committed against her, which I would as a parent myself.
Bloody well done to you and Kathy for this Jim.... and all the other parents for coming in with you. A job well done mate. Congratulations!
Murphy's Law
28-04-2008, 11:47 AM
Congrats on your untiring efforts. Although I am not a parent I would say its our responsability to protect the children he might come in contact with. Disgusting that he can still be allowed to preach.
We had a big blow up in Newfoundland Canada with priests. the scale was huge. One good thing about prosicution, at least to my humble knowledge, is that they would then be a registered sex offender. then no more being around kids.
on another side, I can understand not wanting to be dragged through it. Again. Anyway to protect her picture or name I would use. If its a lesser charge, so what, they still have to register as sexual offender and cant hurt anyone else.
Murphy, you are speaking of the Mount Cashel Orphanage? I am a proud Newfoundlander. ;-) Just recently moved overseas as part of my retirement. My children are still in Newfoundland, excepting my daughter who lives with us currently.
Murphy's Law
28-04-2008, 12:07 PM
Yes, my son, I am. It is such a small world. If that is where this happened, I think there are several govt funds now to help support the suffers from Mount Cashel
I proudly hail from the rock as well. Small village close to trinity bay. Moved to NB for docs and better technology.
Pressed reply too soon. Thank you Anthony for the compliments. Much appreciated and will tell Kathleen you think so too. She will be pleased. Agreed, there are some things one feels as a parent that are impossible to ignore. Thank you for the encouragement.
And. Received an email from Evie (I am currently away from home on business) which answers the question asked here. She is happy we wish to be involved. Takes it the right way, thankfully. Says it shows we care. For herself - she is anxious about it and needs time. But thanks us for being concerned. So. Feel far better hearing that. :-)
Thanks all.
Jim.
Yes, my son, I am. I proudly hail from the rock as well. Small village close to trinity bay. Moved to NB for docs and better technology.
Very small world indeed! Lived in the Trinity Bay area myself for a time, though originally from Fogo Island. Wife is a townie. ;-) Hails from St. John's. My sons are in Gander and Stephenville. Too bad you had to leave the rock but understandable. My daughter misses it terribly but needs to live with us for now.
Jim.
Murphy's Law
28-04-2008, 12:23 PM
Oh I miss it too. I would tell you what village but they might think i`m using bad language. lol. That might tip you off to it. I do try to get back for regatta each year.
Good luck to you, and your family. I hope you all find peace in this.
Jill
Dildo! ;-)
Oh. And thank you. Appreciated. :-)
Jim.
Murphy's Law
28-04-2008, 01:12 PM
:-) you got it
i send you the warmest hug i can give you and your doughter
i feel for you all
and feel free here to ask us anything here
we are a lot of victims am sad to say
but we all in here wishes you the best of luck!
Thank you Tessan, much appreciated for the wishes. Missed your post before. Getting old I reckon. ;-)
Jim.
Nicolette
28-04-2008, 04:32 PM
Thank you Tessan, much appreciated for the wishes. Missed your post before. Getting old I reckon. ;-)
Nope, sorry Jim - it's not a case of getting old! As Tessan is still in moderation the post was before yours but as it wasn't approved at the stage you posted you couldn't see it until afterwards when I approved it.
Nicolette
28-04-2008, 04:35 PM
And. Received an email from Evie (I am currently away from home on business) which answers the question asked here. She is happy we wish to be involved. Takes it the right way, thankfully. Says it shows we care. For herself - she is anxious about it and needs time. But thanks us for being concerned. So. Feel far better hearing that. :-)
Good work Evie! Glad you told your dad :wink:
Jim... I am glad that your daughter (I am not using names because I haven't read every post here and am unsure if your daughter would not like to be named here) is happy to go ahead with the prosecution.
I am glad that she is okay with this because what she, and you are all doing is comendable. You may or may not be surprised to know, but too often things like this go unreported. Aside from the justice that all affected deserve...which is paramount in my eyes - this man is also a huge danger to children. And there are many children that hopefully will be saved as a result of this.
I recently went through the difficult decision of whether or not I wanted to prosecute. I contacted the police, and gave his full name so the matter is somewhat in the police's hands. However... when I decided to prosecute my PTSD got much worse, and I had to say no in the end. I regret that, but it was affecting me so much... I hope one day I will be okay enough to be able to cope with it. But at this time in my life, I felt I had no choice but to put myself first as I was reacting badly to it all. I'm taking comfort in the knowledge that the police have his name for now.
What made me decide to do something was the thought that this man is getting older now, and one day, I might want justice and it will be too late because he'll be dead. The catalyst for contacting the police was hearing that he now has grandchildren.
One thing I can say for certain in my personal experience and opinion is that if I knew for sure that there were others he got at who were willing to prosecute... I would definitely help with a prosecution. Somehow it makes it easier to do. What you have done by contacting parents is allow others who have been got at by this man to be given this opportunity knowing that they are not alone.
I wanted to point this out because I believe it's a huge thing. If you had decided not to go ahead, you would have still done something great as I have no doubt your contact and breaking the 'secret' he holds by exposing him to other parents and 'victims' (hate that word) would have stimulated many people to come forward regardless. It's really powerful what you have done. Although I am not one of this man's 'victims', I am to another abuser and for some reason I want to personally thank you for doing this even though I'm in no way entitled to! I guess because if somebody did the same for me, it would change my life and give me the bravery to go forward.
I am pleased you, your family, and most importantly, your daughter are continuing with this because this man needs to be brought to justice for what he did to your daughter, and all the others.
Ah I see it is okay to use names... sorry I was just being over cautious!
Ditto! ;-)
Noticed you edited this Nicolette. The word was "Dildo". No error. It is a village in Newfoundland. A dildo is a part of a rowboat.
Jim.
Ah I see it is okay to use names... sorry I was just being over cautious!
Yep no worries Lisa. If ever we have something as personal as this to share, we ask Evie's permission firstly. Fact is, too many know her and us and could put 2 and 2 together. So. She is always aware these threads exist.
Extremely well done for trying on your own. Quite extraordinary. Very brave I must say. Unfortunate your PTSD became worse. Though to be expected. Evie is having difficulties at the moment herself, and matters have barely started.
One thing I can say for certain in my personal experience and opinion is that if I knew for sure that there were others he got at who were willing to prosecute... I would definitely help with a prosecution. Somehow it makes it easier to do. What you have done by contacting parents is allow others who have been got at by this man to be given this opportunity knowing that they are not alone.
Fine points to make, thank you. Yes that was our thought as well, safety in numbers so to speak. Good to know such action would have helped you as well.
'victims' (hate that word)
Glad to know you hate the word. As do I. Guilty of using it once in here. However. I won't again. Wouldn't like being called that myself.
Much appreciated for sharing Lisa.
Jim.
Nope, sorry Jim - it's not a case of getting old! As Tessan is still in moderation the post was before yours but as it wasn't approved at the stage you posted you couldn't see it until afterwards when I approved it.
Ah. Good to know. Don't usually miss a post. Still getting old though. ;-)
Jim.
anthony
29-04-2008, 10:03 AM
Nicolette asked me about your post, and I actually said to her that I doubt Jim would much such a mistake, without looking at it any further.... good to know I still have it!
Love you sweetheart..... sarcasm will get me in the shit no doubt.... I have to jump on this, because I am often more wrong than right when it comes to debate with the missus....
Anthony, your a braver man than I. Wouldn't dare correct the wife thusly. ;-)
Jim.
Hi Jim,
At first I thought I would stay away from this thread, as it is a bit triggering for me. But, I decided that I would like to add my two cents.
I reported the rapes (about) two or three years after they happened. (Since I was a minor when they occured, I have until I'm 35 to press charges...perhaps longer as the laws keep changing.) Anyway, I thought I was in a "good place" at that time. I was dealing with my issues, and I was even working as a rape crisis counselor at the same organization that had helped me not long before.
I worked with an attorney that was provided to by by the RCC, and we set up a date to file the report. I was told that I would be able to have whomever I wanted there for support, so I chose my good friend/fellow counselor as well as an RCC legal advocate. I was nervous, but at the same time I felt empowered and in control.
When I got to the police station, however, the detective took me to an interrigation room (just like the ones you see on Law and Order--you know, with the mirrored glass and everything), and my friend and the advocate were told that they could not stay in with me. I was so scared, and started to hyperventilate as the detective asked the most demeaning, victim-blaming questions while another (random) person took notes. When I finally left the police station (hours later), I felt like I had been run over by a truck.
That being said, I realize that this is not everyone's experience, and there was actually some good that came out of reporting--(it helped that I did so as I was stalked by my rapist for years after). But, I just want to confirm what some have said on this poast: Once you report/make a statement, things are out of your control. Even if one prosecutor says one thing, this doesn't mean that another prosecutor won't take the case and then do another.
Sorry, but I wanted to add something else.
I totally understand your frustration and anger; I would feel the same way if it were my child who had gone through this. BUT, acting out in violence or even saying that you would LIKE to act out in violence and hurt this perpetrator--(as sick and evil as he may be)--doesn't help the situation. When my brother found out about the rape, the first thing he did was buy a gun. I know he was angry, and I know he wanted to protect me. But instead of me focusing on how to get myself better, I had to worry about what my brother may do. I know that he was doing this because he felt helpless to do anything else, but it really just added to my anxiety.
I wish you and your family the best. I know this isn't easy; hang in there.
Nic
Nicolette
29-04-2008, 10:29 AM
Love you sweetheart.....
You too xoxox
sarcasm will get me in the shit no doubt....
You bet it will :wink:
I have to jump on this, because I am often more wrong than right when it comes to debate with the missus....
Ain't that the truth :wink:. You do realise there will be severe consequences for you after this!!! I would have taken Jim's approach and shut my mouth! :poke:
I totally understand your frustration and anger; I would feel the same way if it were my child who had gone through this. BUT, acting out in violence or even saying that you would LIKE to act out in violence and hurt this perpetrator--(as sick and evil as he may be)--doesn't help the situation.
Well Nic. Firstly, you are not a parent, correct? Right or wrong, there is a feeling for a child who has been harmed, difficult to describe to one who has no children. Very special feeling between a father and daughter especially. That is what I was expressing here.
Jim.
anthony
29-04-2008, 10:44 AM
If it was my child, I would want some alone time in a room with the molesting prick.... just me though. The molester wouldn't be so happy after that....
Yep would think most parents feel thusly Anthony. Can't imagine not feeling that way to be honest. There is some relief too in talking about it.
Jim.
anthony
29-04-2008, 11:58 AM
Yer mate... I can't fathom your frustration because it hasn't happened to me, but I can gauge a good idea from how I feel about it already IF it did happen to one of my children. I know I would really struggle not killing them to be perfectly honest, spending my life in jail because they hurt my children of such a nature. I know it wouldn't be pretty if anyone every touched one of my children... I would likely have to be restrained from them if ever coming face to face with them. Likely the best option would simply never put the person near me, or I would be going to jail for murder and they would be dead for touching my child. I can gauge the level of frustration just from what I feel about such a thing occurring to my own children mate....
You have my email Jim if you need to chat with me.... use it if you don't want to discuss in public mate.
2quilt
29-04-2008, 01:58 PM
I would want you to prosecute. I am a rape survivor, and the police refused to help me or even take the evidence i had because they were friends with the man. I have never forgiven the police for that.
It would be very difficult for me to let that man go to work in the morning if I knew where he lived. I am one vengeful, vigilante bitch.
You will be saving countless other children for PTSD and possible suicide, Jim. Do it for me.
Anthony, much appreciated for the offer to speak privately. May take you up on it.
2quilt, appreciated also for your story and sentiment. Evie says she is fine with our involvement. So. No worries. I intend to pursue this. You are now officially included in the list of reasons. :-)
Jim.
Brief update. We now have 12 families interested in pursuing this. Met with some just yesterday, as I am in Canada currently. Others thinking about it, and more yet who have been contacted. Believe we will have a strong case.
Jim.
anthony
02-05-2008, 12:56 PM
Good stuff mate... another predator hopefully behind bars.... fingers and toes crossed.
Marlene
02-05-2008, 10:51 PM
Jim,
I've not made any posts on this thread mainly due to the fact that this subject really hits close to home for me. Actually, the first time I saw the thread name it was like a punch in the chest. I have followed it, though.
But if you can help put this sick son of a bitch away and save other children from suffering what a lot here have suffered...then please do it! I'm with 2quilt, do it for me and for the rest of us who never have and never will have justice for ourselves against the people who hurt us.
Lisa
She Cat
03-05-2008, 06:17 AM
Jim,
I too agree.....If you can stop just this one man, think of how many children that you will save from going through what he has already done to others....
I applaude you, Kathy and all of the other families that have come together to have a strong voice.
I wish you all well......