Mother's Day - Venting

[ladybug08]

Well...it's that time of year again...mother's day...BIG DEAL...I think mother's day should not be celebrated...I had a rough childhood. My mother was home physically, but she was and is a terrible mother. She was and still is a constant terror... an alcoholic, and personality disorder (undiagnosed). When the holidays come around, I rather work than to go visit my parents. My mother never worked, but my dad all the time. He provided us a home, food and clothes etc. She yelled at me, my brother, sister, and dad. She is never satisfied. No one wants to come over for Mother's Day. I know I'm not.

I went to a Mother's Day gathering a few hours ago, and left early because I was really upset that even though my mother is alive a well, my mom and I will never be friends. She loves to pick fights, and will get physical.

I had to get that off my chest...by the way to all the mothers on this forum...Happy Mother's Day!

[captrn1]

Hey Ladybug

sorry this is a bad day for you.....it is for many people........(father's day for me).

Do something for yourself today......anything...buy something....go for a walk......download a new song......

My sister is/was one of the worst mothers on this earth.......I raised my nephew.....but he always treats her as his mother....makes me want to puke too..

have a good day and make it YOUR DAY!

[Bulldog36]

Ladybug...First of all :Hug_emoticon:

My mother is pretty much a carbon copy of your mother, my mother did have her kind moments and has quit drinking , shes now a lovely dry drunk. Never knowing what you will get from your mom is rough.

My moms choice of attack is to get me lulled into a false sence of caring till I open up to her then use it against me later. I never learn.

Just know there are others out there that have simlar experiences to you and care and understand. That for sure is something positive. I would like to think I was made a stronger, yet damaged person for it. :wink:

[2quilt]

Honey, I had a bad childhood too. I truly believe that just because two people slapped uglies and conceived, that does not mean that I have to "love and honor " them, send them flowers, call them and all that other shit.

It takes more to get a fishing license than to be a parent.

Love was never in the equation between me and my parents. They told me they never wanted me, but that they could not afford the abortion. I don't owe them a GD thing. They molested me, they did terrible things to me that should have put them in jail, but they had to live with each other as punishment.

Over my lifetime, I have chosen other people older than I am that were good to me, who loved me unconditionally, and I named them Mom and Dad because they did not have to be good to me, but they were.

Just because you have a blood relationship with someone does not mean you owe them anything.

Today I am celebrating all the good mothers out there. It takes more than a conception to be a good mother.

[pandora]

I bought my Mom the perfume she said she has been waiting for .....for two years. A grandnmother baby and child figurine and well as a beautiful smelling vanilla candles ( all of witch i could not afford).......she left my brothers ( my son and i were in the hot tub( did wonders for my back...anyway she left without saying goodbye or thankyou.

How do i just get over that......it has been bothering me all night?

Sorry......Didn't mean to hijake the thread.

[ladybug08]

I feel better. I was ok until I went to that dinner. I slept late, and did not think about today as mother's day...o boy.. next month is Father's Day :rolleyes: