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Worrying cannot effect positive change or growth. It will not change the future.

We have so many worries. We worry about money, yet we know that money is only a tool, a means to an end. What we really want is happiness, a bit of security in our lives, some modicum of joy. Happiness, security, and joy are inner states. They are free; money cannot purchase them. Worry is merely a habit—and a negative, unpleasant habit at that. Worry will not change anything, nor will it bring you ...

You learn to look at people as they really are and not as you would want them to be, and you are careful not to project your neediness or insecurities onto a relationship.

You learn that you will not be more beautiful, more intelligent, more lovable or important because of the man on your arm or the child that bears your name.

You learn that just ...

At least I can see the Ocean. It’s my grief. In my little boat. No land in sight. It’s OK. I know where I am. Can sense my depth of loss. And from there, take bearing. From there, keep going. This is my life. It is healing my CPTSD. It is believing. In my self.

Some tranquil music for my friends who suffer. For we have seen. Some truths. And we know. For all my friends who suffer, some tranquil sounds for you. For you, being here, keeps me going. Thank you.

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Do you assume that other people should prove they ''deserve'' your kindness, thoughtfulness or consideration before they get it?

''Why should I be nice to her when she was so rude to me?''

''Mean old bag , never smiles, who would want to treat her decently?''

''He hurt me. I'm not going to waste my time talking to him.''

Living like this- and many people do- you are letting other people decide how you will behave. You are giving away your power ...

Looking into the heart of your life, you will discover that it is always your most personal, intimate ''choices'' which reveal most about your attitude toward yourself. Those relationships should never be less than the best you would want for someone you love.

Let that first person you love be your own self. Then you can more easily choose to love others and truly enjoy them.

I can choose my thoughts.

I can choose to be optimistic.

I can choose ...

"Perhaps it is better to wake up after all, even to suffer, rather than to remain a dupe to illusions all one's life."

Kate Chopin

“Do you want me to tell you something really subversive? Love is everything it's cracked up to be. That's why people are so cynical about it. It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don't risk anything, you risk even more.”
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Guilt vs Regret and Forgiving Yourself by ~Gene Monterastelli

I have a small checklist that I keep on my desk that I review before every client call I do. The list contains the steps that I most often use when helping a client transform their life. One of the most important steps is forgiveness of self.

When something doesn’t go the way we would like it is very easy for us to blame ourselves. Even when there was no possible way we could have done anything differently. ...

A lot of my trauma surrounded a need for forgiveness and being able to let go of the past. I think I would have held onto the pain and hurt of it forever if I hadn't started doing EFT. EFT gave me options and coping skills to help me to learn to forgive the people involved and myself, and learn to let go of what happened. I can not begin to express the difference I feel today towards everything, it's like boulders have been lifted off my shoulders and all the anger and hurt is gone and has been ...

“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover the prisoner was you.” ~Author Unknown

All the years you have waited for them to "make it up to you" and all the energy you expended trying to make them change (or make them pay) kept the old wounds from healing and gave pain from the past free rein to shape and even damage your life. And still they may not have changed. Nothing you have done has made them change. Indeed, they may never change. Inner peace is found ...

How to quiet your negativity script. ~ By Marcelle Pick

Core negative beliefs keep us stuck, frustrated—and often unhealthy.

Most of us have an endless loop of negative thoughts that plays in our heads, a negativity script scrolling on our inner teleprompter that was written so long ago, and plays so continuously, that most of us are hardly aware it’s there. This negativity script eats up an incredible amount of energy, goodwill, and self-esteem. This script is the ...