Veiled, she is being a teen, nothing more, nothing less, and a teen from a broken relationship, which just gives teens more ammo as such to use against the one they live with. They change teams, and they find it isn't all rosy and pink like they had invisaged it. I know, because my boy thought he would have the world financially as we are much more financial than his mother, and he still gets the same love from me, but he was wrong with the possession in a big way, and doesn't like it much. He is fighting, kicking and screaming the whole way through puberty, but he is going to have to live with it, because we all go through it, some just longer than others.

She is confused, she is muddled, her mind is far from thinking straight at the moment. All she see's is opportunity to get away with more shit, which mine thought also, but was so wrong. In fact it is worse for him now, because he walked all over his mother, and he can't with me.

The decisions they make doesn't mean we stop loving them, regardless what comes out of their mouth, they still don't comprehend the meaning of words just yet, but she will soon enough, and when it all hits her, then the guilt will kick in, no doubt. My ex wife didn't want Logan to come live with me, but she legally had no choice, neither did I really, because at 14 and a half here, children are legally aloud to make that decision for themselves. All she can do is let him know that her door is always open for him if he wants to go home.

He wanted the big city, the city life and all the crap that we despise so much, he wanted it, and now he has it, it is no different to what he had before in a smaller city really, bar some shopping centre's. They must learn for themselves... unfortunately they just don't see the pain that they cause their parents by doing so.

Be kind to yourself veiled, because this is not your fault, and nothing you could do would change her mind, because she is a know all teenager who believes she knows more than you do... as they all think. She will learn. Maybe it will work out for her and she will be happy with her dad, maybe it won't... another waiting game really.

Well, I am seeing I have to just accept it. I don't want to. But I will be spinning my wheels if I do not. Too damn much spinning on my end as it is lately.

The teen and hubs are still proceeding with her room. Bed just got shipped down the stairs to go to the dump. They are trying to involve me even though I made it clear don't. Not ready. Should not ask me what to do with the bed as I said just throw the f*er away. I am not in a pleasant mood to say the least.

It is tough and hurts. But have to accept. Thought about it. This is where I am in my head. Not sure my door will be open. I cannot allow her to bounce around or back and forth. If he lays a hand on her I will hurt him. Then she can come home. But if he is not abusing her she is going to have to suck it up. I cannot do this emotional head game with her.

I will worry and plan on sending her some packs of stationary sets and stamps to her. Everything I send will be certified. They will have to sign for it and shown reciept.

I sit back for years and years and think of all the ways I could make that man who almost killed me life a living hell in return daily as he has mine. Shit she will do it for me, after all she is a female teenager, how much worse can I do to him? I KNOW her and all her games. Ha ha he has no clue what is going to hit him LMAO... I am hoping the both get a wake up call. And I plan on sitting back watching. How in the hell do you think you are going to be an absent parent - a sperm donor to suddenly turn "daddy" to a hormonal out of control teen girl? I am just going to sit back and enjoy the show.

Veiled,

At this point all you can do is sit back and see what happens.
It will be absolutly frusterating and may be emotionally hard for you.
But honestly, if she is being this stubborn... nagging her to come back is not the way to go.

My brother pulled a similar stunt on my parents when he was 15.
It took about 9 months... but after he realized just how good he had it at home, he came back.

My advice to you would be,
tell your daughter that you love her, will miss her, and she is welcome to come home.
The last thing you would want to do is make her think that isn't welcome back home, she needs to know that you love her and no matter what she does, you will be there for her.

Take a nice long bath or something,
Y&A :)