Hey Jen
Sorry to hear that your hubby isn't the best at the moment.

If you can afford it, I think you should get someone in to help you. At least it will give you a bit of a break. If I lived a bit closer I'd offer to give you a hand!

Hope your doing well.

Hey Jods thanks for the offer! I will be ok I have to be this is our livelihood. He wasnt to bad today. He came and gave me a hand for a while.
It just shits me that I cant rely on him to much not only with the business at home he doesnt do any man things around the house. We need a new fence, we need a sink fixed there is a lot that needs to be done but if I mention it I am nagging. He days he will get to it. I could do these things myself but he gets shitty if I say that to him.
Jen

You know - it is a Godsend to have found this site. So many of the things that I steam about privately - are being spelled out by others here. My house has so many things that need to be done - and I don't even realize until my dad comes to town to visit and starts replacing light bulbs, fixes a rattling ceiling fan, and stuff within 15 minutes of being here. He makes all these suggestions - you know if you did this, it would solve that. Like you say, Jen - "man stuff".

When people say, "You might have to be the breadwinner", I think - yeah well, i'll have to be the housewife too - I can just picture my husband sitting home smoking dope all day, playing computer (military) games, and nothing getting done. Except maybe 30 minutes before I get home - a shitty dinner out of a box will have been prepared in order to keep me off of his back. (Thats why all things are done - if done at all - to keep me off his back - not for our family or because they need to be done - or because he wants to contribute)

I was telling my mom last night - so many things I thought were unique to my situation - people live with all over the world. My question remains: Whats in it for me? Emotional connection? Nope. Financial security? Nope. Intellectual conversation? Any conversation? Nope. Fun, laughter, joy? Nope. Someone to help out around the house? Nope. sigh.

Thats right KG I have no problem doing the man stuff around the house but he gets so shitty when I do it only because I am sick of waiting for it to be done. Some things just have to be done!
Jen