you know whats hard for me? When my husband forgets....I seem to also pay the consequences. I have been advised here (and I know it's true) that if it is wearing me out & pissing me off, I should stop trying to prevent stressors or remind him of everything.

But here's what happens if he forgets: he has been waiting six months to get in with his shrink at the VA (for PTSD diagnosis) - and misses his appt. So another six months? He is late paying child support - so his ex calls and screams at him, he freaks - then we wire her money that costs $25 more than if it would have been mailed. He forgets to call his son - so his son gets lost in the mix (and I am his stepmother) He forgets to brush his teeth - and when he goes to the dentist it's $1000 bucks. He drives his truck - I don't - but he takes it in for brake pads - and boom another $1000 bucks - cuz the brakes are shot - since he's been driving metal to metal for some time now. Don't even get me started on the customer complaints I have had to smooth over at our small business for unreturned calls, unfulfilled promises. Hell - we drove to the wrong city - when visiting his brother my 1st time - he has lived there for like 10 years! On and on and on

What can I do? I get furious when I have to nag the shit out of him all the time - but when I let go - the shit hits the fan! He hates it too.

i found that my memory especially short term improved greatly with a change in medication,before that i couldnt remember my home phone number but now i can remember things such as birthdays and appointments.

HI,

thought I would throw in my 2 cents worth here. Some memory losses can be related to the PTSD trauma etc, some memory losses may be attributed to physical injuries (such as rangers parachute collasping him falling 70 feet and double concussion) or in my case I just can't remember s--t !!!

Does it get better? WOW, is that the 64 thousand dollar question!!!
I believe every individual is a little different...

We make notes, lists, and mark the heck out of the calendar.

Operating a business is a very difficult situation, :cussing: when losing $$/business, maybe work out a new system for the things that need to get done/or someone else to do them. Good Luck !

HUGS to you & yours

D (wildcritter)

Shit i forgot what i was going write ?

Oh good one Nugget
His memory seems to be a little better we use our little tape recorder which helps with the business as we cant afford not to remember orders etc I make a point of using it as well which I think helps him.
One thing I have noticed is he used to be really good with numbers and maths he seemed to have lost that.
But in the last couple of weeks he has got better with this.
Jen

i hope it improves jen ive only just started using stuff from the course maybe its starting to take effect at your house aswell.
i very much hope so and please let me know how things go.

paul.

Thanks Paul good to see you are using the tools from the course. Slowly but surely hey?

Hi Jen

Good news that things are slowly on the up for your hubby's progress.
New year, new start! Hope it's the start of better things for you both! You both deserve it!

Thanks Jods hope things are ok with you to! Love your hubbys sense of humour.
Jen