I found that the one thing I always have trouble with, in translating verbally what is in my head. Sometimes it feels like a busy intersection without traffic lights. So if I had trouble giving it some kind of direction, how was I going to relay it to my partner. But if I wrote them down (or in my case typed them out), what didnt make sense to me today, might make sense to me next week... but how could my partner take that week of not knowing? He couldnt. It was that walk on egg shells routine & not fair to them, and not fair to me.

However, if I wrote down what was going on in my head today, my partner could see the turmoil I was going thru, but didn't have to live with the turmoil as much, as he had at least a vague idea of where I was at. Then in maybe a weeks time when things had slotted into some kind of order, my partner could see if I was either still struggling, or coming to grips with it.

I always find that communication is the hardest component for both PTSD suffers & their partners. How can we communicate, what we are having problems with ourselves? How can a partner understand if we dont? I found an open journal was a bit like a road map for my partner... it helped him navigate the muddy waters I was travelling through.