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08-09-2007, 01:30 PM
|  | Administrative Editor PTSD | | Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Melbourne, Australia
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Jodie, the only medicine is from him, being he must help himself. If he continues to help himself then he will get better and the relationship will survive. If not, or if he's not, if he doesn't want to help himself, ie. sitting in self sympathy still, then nothing he does will change much, only scratch away at the surface.
If he wants change, then make him really work hard at it, reward him for his efforts, then push him more to help himself, then backoff and see how he continues. |
24-09-2007, 08:20 PM
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Thank you Anthony.I'm feeling more able to support him at the moment. Just trying to balance the pushing and the backing off part. I have ordered some of those books you suggested. If you have/find any more resources, I'd love to keep educating myself so I can be helpful.
Sincerely,
Jodie |
18-10-2007, 11:09 AM
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Spoken like a true Aussie would.( fight , passion and straight to the point ) RESPECT |
27-10-2007, 10:57 AM
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This is an interesting thread. At least now I know that the therapy isn't supposed to be warm and fuzzy; he gets in my face. I didn't suffer multiple prolonged traumas and don't have a sever case of ptsd. Sometimes the cure seems more painful than the problem.
Ya I know - my life will be better if I address this. If I don't recover with minimal residual effects it's my own darn fault. I'm not wimping out. Quote:
Originally Posted by anthony  You have to be open and expose your vunerabilities, you have to let yourself be a little more free and expressive, | This is what I struggle with most. I've been told it's part of the healing process and I know it helps, but I still don't want to talk about it. This is all fairly new to me and I don't understand the role this plays. I guess I'm looking for an explanation or pep talk from someone who's been through it.
Any comments would be appreciated! |
30-10-2007, 08:47 AM
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Hi Ruddy,
Unfortunately nothing I say to you can help you make the decision to want to heal; only you can make this decision yourself because you want to heal. To be open is to be vulnerable. To be vulnerable means you have to really trust someone first. At some point you have to rely on the person you use to be trustworthy of your emotion and not hurt you, but guide you through the process. |
31-10-2007, 12:44 AM
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Anthony,
Thanks for the reply. I think you're right in that trust is the big sticking point. I'll keep trying to remind myself that everyone is not going to betray my trust, and if someone does, I'll survive and move on.
Red |
01-11-2007, 08:02 AM
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