Neela, I am going thru the same things with my dh right now. I haven't heard from him in two days now(We do not live together at the moment-dr's decision.). When he completely shuts me out is when it hurts the most I think. I worry about him because he shuts himself off in a hole where noone can reach him. I know he isn't responding to anyone because his voice mailbox is so full it won't take anymore messages.

I hope you can get thru this with him. It is obvious you really do care about him. But is it enough for the both of you?

Hi Seriously!

Just wanted to respond right quick to your response. First off thanks so much! I really do find comfort in knowing that I'm not alone. Around the same time of your response my boyfriend and I had another "time out". I'm not really sure what set him off, I'm thinking it had something to do with my sisters wedding. But one could never tell. Anyway, he freaked out on me and then pretty much said that it was over. At that point I really thought it was. He stopped talking to me for about a week, the longest we've ever not spoken. And I thought for sure we were done. But sure enough, he called me and begged me to come back to him. It's funny, because I would never leave him and the way he acted was like I was the one who made that decision, you know? We're good to go for now. We celebrated our anniversary last weekend and had a blast.

So, really random, though I may not always be posting, I do read a lot of the responses here and I found one from Tammy that I thought was absolutely BRILLIANT! She said something about keeping a calendar of when our sufferer has their moments. I've actually been doing that and the other day I showed it to him. He laughed (in a good way) about it saying that I'm keeping a record of when he's PMS'ing. :) Also, we've come up with a code word for when he starts feeling stressed out that's helped a little. Whenever he starts feeling stressed he'll tell me the he needs to take a "time out". It's good, because at that point I know that I need to leave him alone. Just a thought to maybe help you out.

Neela