Is that a good idea? Of course its your choice but if things are difficult at this time maybe it would be good to keep the appointment rather than cancel them? Seems a bit like saying I'm going to run a marathon but these trainers hurt so I'll take them off and run in bare feet!

Can you explain stuff to your therapist. Sometimes when thigns are too much for me I tell him and we change the sessions accordingly working on more relaxation or meditation skills as well as the trauma itself.

Can you get any more help with your job? get staff to help you out more? Think of it as a physical problem maybe, how would you work things out if you say... broke an arm and still had to work? Could you rearrange things to help you get through this period?

Just ideas Hollyberry, I havent done any shopping at all yet and not planning to until Xmas eve becasue everyones gone crazy again. I dont envy you.

Take care

Another option I often use is to have phone sessions with my therapist when I'm not well enough to drive 40 miles to see her or other obligations make it too stressful to fit in an appt. I find that even just 20-30 minutes on the phone with her helps. It's not the same, of course, as a full face-to-face session, but at least I'm getting professional support, advice, etc. It's often more like triage or damage control for the really bad times, as opposed to working on the underlying issues, which is more doable for me during better times.

I've also recently begun emailing her on crisis days, and that helps, too.

Perhaps your therapist would be amenable to these kinds of options? Especially at such a busy time for you.

I can remember very well the draining affect my therapy sessions would have on me when I frist started. I would be no good for 2 days. I was blessed that I was not working so that stress was not an issue for me. Which was a good thing. I could not have handled therapy and work. My hats off to those of you who can.

I have had to quit my therapy completely due to insurance issues--which sucks--and I can tell you from experience that if you can go--GO--find a way tol continue but DO NOT STOP. Smetimes we don't see the real affect it has on use. But it helps A LOT!!
So, please go or call, but do something. It is too important Trust me I know Been there, done that AND got the Tshirt! ! !

I went to therapy yesterday and my husband went with me. I really need him to understand what happened last visit. We learned what happened was disassoication. Last weeks visit freaked me out so much. 1st time that little kid that delt with my trauma came out. didn't really let her out. her emotions scared me so. took some eep breathes and pushed her back down. I think same thing happened monday, here at home.

Well Hollyberry

This process is a bitch. I've been dealing with it since 1997 when I had my breakdwon. It is a slow and painful process but it is possible to do. You sometimes take 1 step forward and 2 steps back.

Your therapist is sometimes just a referee between you and your mind. I use to think my therapist was not even listening to me ramble on for an hour, but then he would ask me some off the wall question referring to a session a week ago. They do know what they are doing, even if we don't. And lord knows we need all the help we can get just to get through the day, right?

I've been known to get into bed after a therapy session and stay the for 2-3 days before resurfacing. Scared my mom one time really bad. I did not call her or even answer the phone for 4 straight days. Just could not handle any noise or outside input.

But you will survive and the end will be worth it, I hope! I am still trying to survive this mess we are in. You are so lucky that your husband is able to go with you and WANTS to go with you. Don't shut him out of this cuz he can help

Hang in there hollyberry and keep the faith HERC