I use to be an organize everything nut when I had my first child... and I would get upset and stressed when things didn't get put back in the places "I" thought they where supose to be in. I figgured out that my being so orginized would frustrate myself and my daughter because she would be unsure where things should go and would feel like she was going to get in trouble if they didn't go in the places I thought they should. I had to sort of let go the idea the toys and stuff had special places they had to be put away in and just let her put her stuff where she wanted to get her to pick up. It helped lower the stress of a messy house and give her the satisfaction that she was more in control of her own things and wouldn't get in trouble if they didn't go back the exact way I thougth they should. LOL I don't know if its the same way when dealing with men or even ourselves.. but its an idea I thought I would mention!

OMG- I seriously think it does rub off. Having a partner with PTSD and two children, Jack just turned two and Phoenix is 7 months, I find it extremely hard to keep a spotlessly clean house. I have never been a good house wife but I am slowly improving. I have a secret to share with you though. In my house I make it a rule that no one is allowed in the bedrooms except to sleep. The only rooms I am ever concerned about are the lounge room, the kitchen, the athroom and the toilet. I hve given up on picking up ever toy my kids leave laying around, because I would never get anything else done. My boys room is always tidy, their beds are made evry morning. My bedroom however is the worst room in my house. If I don't feel like folding the mountain of laundry I have done that day, I put it in my room to do later. If I don't feel like filing thngs away, they also go into my bedroom until I feel like doing it. I am getting myself in the habit though of spring cleaning my whole house once a week. I can't remember who said it but someone in this thread says that their partner leave their dirty clothes all over the house. Alex is exactly the same. I came up with a soluton though... If his clothes weren't in the bathroom or laundry I woud put them into a garbage bag and when he ran out of clothes he had to wash them himself! HE know has a certain spot in our room, or he uts them in the bathroom!!! I thnk he got sick of never having any clean clothes. I now live by the motto that 'a good mother has dirty floors and happy children'.
Tammy