Mate, here are the hard hitting problems with your wife. Firstly, her problems are a direct result of her PTSD, I have no doubt about that. Secondly, she needs to start coming to terms with this now, or sit around and feel sorry for herself, because the facts of the matter are, she is not going to get better if she doesn't actively pull her finger out of her arse and do something for herself. It doesn't get much blunter than that. Please feel free to tell her that from me, and that I am an Australian, and I have PTSD, and I have gotten to the other side of it because I refused to let it beat me. Your wife is in a very normal denial stage, and your not going to like my suggestions to fixing her, but she needs this.

You are going to need to baby her to get her moving, if it must be that way. She is going to have to wake the hell up to herself and want to actively get herself better, face her traumatic fears and cope with this, because if she doesn't want too, then she will never get better... and I do mean never. If it really comes down to it, she needs a good kick in the arse to be quite honest, and I will give you a secret to PTSD... sufferers cannot be pussy footed around, because they will walk over you each and every time. You need to be brutal, you need to be blunt, you need to be accurate and decisive. From the sounds of it, she needs it to get motivated... once motivated, she needs to then want to actively help herself, because until she does, any counselling or the like is just wasted time and money.

PTSD is a very tough illness, and those around a sufferer need to be tough about the illness, and not let the sufferer walk over them, around them or sidestep them, you must deal with a sufferer head on, because that is the only way we comprehend things with uncontrolled PTSD. Hell... it took until my wife was walking to wake me up... (that isn't to say you should try that if you don't mean it).