Does Therapy/Therapist Really Help - Page 3

kers · #21 10-12-2007, 10:22 PM

Good for you for letting her know how you were doing. I hope you're feeling better soon.

Cindy · #22 14-12-2007, 05:55 AM

When I have been in your place in the past I e-mailed the Samaritan's in the UK. They are great because they ask thought provoking questions and try to help you to isolate the idea's that are overwhelming you. I too have used them to prevent hospitallization. There is usually a twenty four hour turn around time for replies. But the great thing is you can get a lot off your chest and feel safe. It will give you another outlet and someone to discuss what you share with your counsellor. PLEASE, continue to reach out - don't shut down.

anthony · #23 14-12-2007, 10:36 AM

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Originally Posted by canucklady

I know she will ask me if I have a plan etc. So I am afraid to tell her the truth. Don't want her to freak out and then I end up in hospital, that would make me feel even worse, that woudl be another thing my family would have to be ashamed in me about.

Time and time again people ponder whether they should disclose this or that to their therapist. Well, my thought on that is why are you seeing a therapist in the first place if your not being 100% honest with them and disclosing everything to them? Your wasteing your money if you're not. Your not helping yourself at all because if they are left to guess what is going on, their treatment will be less than effective with you.

Regardless how you feel at any given time, if you want to be in therapy you must be 100% honest with them at all times, regardless how much it hurts you or your thoughts are telling you other things, if you're not 100% honest with them then your wasteing your time and money. Your wasteing their time also, as they could be helping someone who does want to be honest with them.

You will only get out of therapy what you put in. It is the same as if you where dealing with me, in that anything less than 100% disclosure would result in less effective outcome for yourself. My method differs though from therapist, in that I can push a person to their breaking point so they do get it all out, were a therapist won't typically do that because they are being paid and don't want to lose you as a customer. End of the day, your a customer so they are trying to please you, not always just help you.

The ideal therapist is one that will never sympathise with you, only show empathy when required and be very tough on pushing you, making you angry to release your trauma. That is how you get trauma from a PTSD sufferer, by making them angry and knowing what is already going on inside their head to help them find it.

Therapy can help you, but only if you want to help yourself more so.