Ok, so I thought I would not be on the computer when I was gone but my girlfriends aunt has the newest apple computer and I just had to try it ...

I also was wondering if perhaps I could get some thoughts on something I am in right now.

It's not that my girlfriends family does not like me, let me start off by saying. It's that they have invested in her schooling and her period and they want to be sure of who she is with etc.

Well, at least most of her family. Her aunts house whom we are staying with is this very super rich, super good looking, younger woman. She ....I am not sure has ever talk to someone like me up close.

I have lots of tattoos that are very easy to see ( I don't hide anything) and I have a lip ring, eye brow ring and VERY short hair that is styled like someone out of Panic at the Disco (look it up.....it's a band). I wear my pants sagging off of me...and I look like every other 22 yearold lesbian you would find on myspace.


Sorry had to paint the pic for you....

I am also a bit heavy set and her aunt has commented on all these things via e-mail with my girl but not to my face which bothers me almost to no end!!!!!!!!

She called me fat and then a few other things and I am not very sure how to deal with being around her.
See I have a huge mouth and it really brings up alot of things about my father when I even see her.


The thing is I don't see her often and when she see's me she wont say anything of the sort!!!!! She just is has sweet as could be in my damn face!

I really feel like I need her to know how not cool it is to speak about me in that way and how much it hurts me and brings up things from my childhood........but...for the sake up my wonderful girlfriend I would like to NOT do this in a way that will ruin x-mas......We did drive 7 hours almost to get here.......


*sighs*



Anyone?

Geneva

Geneva....

I don't know what to say other than I'm sorry that you have to go through this. One of my good friends is gay. He is very over weight, with a few peircings too. He has dyed his very LONG hair flamming red, and has his nails done sometimes.

When I first saw him, well...I was a little standoffish......I was actually a little scared. John turned out to be a sweetheart. I call him sweet cheeks.

Maybe auntie just needs to get to know you a little better. Be yourself. Although what she said was rude.

I hope this auntie dosen't ruin your vacation....

Update!

I spoke with her last night.....I spoke my mind and told her she hurt my feelings...we had a great convo and got alot out and on the table. It went well.....


Down side to this vacations....?

I hate a heat rash...lol.


Damn you South FL!


Geneva

This may sound really funny, Geneva, but it is possible that Auntie may believe that you are the very first Lesbian she has ever met. She is curious about you, and she does not want to offend you, so she is trying her damndest to be 'nice' to you, in her own way, in her way, because she is nervous. She respects her niece and you...you know this because if she did not, you would not be there in her home. Remember that when Auntie was your age, Lesbians were not out, and your lives were very sad. You could not love who you wanted to love, and homosexuality was a mental illness and a crime (1973). You are one of the first generations of freedom and change and there has not yet been a Civil Rights Movement for gays to win total equality in marriage, hate crime laws, marriage benefits, etc.
For example, in the 1950's, it was illegal in the South for a Black person to marry a White person. Now, the only reason why two consenting adults can't marry in the USA is if they are siblings or of the same gender. IMHO, the government should stay the hell out of both and let common phuqing sense take over and let 2 consenting adults love each other and be happy.
But I digress.
Here, Geneva, is your oportunity to educate Auntie on how wonderful, positive, and nice you are, and how being a Lesbian is just one of your many attributes that makes up who you are and why her niece loves you. What do you have in common with Auntie and the others in her life? (Instead of the sharp contrasts) How can you thank her for her hospitality? Auntie has been courageous if you think about it; she does not know you. It took courage for both of you to visit during Christmas. How can you improve on what relationship you two do have now? You don't have to answer these questions here to me, these are just to think about.

;) thankyou