Don't Think I Can Forgive This One - Marriage Possibly Over - Page 4

becvan · #31 04-01-2008, 01:05 AM

Bella maybe you need to hear this from a sufferer. PTSD does not make us cheat. I've had this for over twenty years. I cheated once, a decade ago, and it was an active decision to do so. I hated myself for it. I chose to not do it again.

People without PTSD cheat too. This is not an illness, it's a choice.

bec

Jim · #32 05-01-2008, 08:58 AM

As someone who cheated myself, must be honest here Bella. If my wife had not been so tough about it initially - had she forgiven me quick and easy and not expected much - reckon I would have taken advantage. I was a lazy bastard back then. Likely wouldn't have done all the work upon myself that I did do. Her leaving with the boys and not wanting me back for a time was a needed wake-up call. My bottom so to speak. Thank my wife everyday for it, as it forced me to seek help. Christ knows where I'd be today without it.

Every situation is different. However. Cheating is serious. A serious breach of trust and a serious hurt. Your not superwoman, feeling badly is natural. Don't fall into pity for him because of PTSD. He's a big boy and believe you me, he knew what he was doing.

Jim.