Normal to be Angry at Therapist?

dshanks · #1 06-01-2008, 12:16 PM

This year has been very interesting. First of all finding this forum and then learning so much from everyone. These holidays, however, have been quite stressful because I was doing so well and then my friend pulls a trip on me, leading me to believe that if she isn t happy I can t be either. But also there is my therapist that, for the first time in 15 yrs of therapy, decides he is going to take 2 weeks off during the holiday seaso. I mean he has every right to take time off, but WHY did I become so resentful towards him for taking time off... It isn t my first year in therapy and my husband gives me more than enough support. I just don t get it. Now I only have to hang on 3 more days before I can talk to him about this.Is this normal...

nie · #2 06-01-2008, 12:19 PM

I felt heightened anxiety when my therapist took a week off during the holidays. My husband is very supportive as well. However, I think that the change in routine can cause a variety of emotions. Just a thought.

metis-siren · #3 06-01-2008, 03:23 PM

I know for my past psychiatrist whom I'd been seeing for three years, when he went on a holiday (well he's on leave now and it's been months, but when it was just the beginning of his two week holiday), though I had other supports it left me out of sorts. I was angry and quite upset because he had become my confident, someone I could count on, someone I trusted, and even though it was a professional relationship, it was my personal life that I was sharing and it was hard to have that time where he wasn't a support, or available. I suppose I found the relationship to be akin to a friend in the sense that I'd grown accustomed to being able to share on a regular basis and for him to say "I'm taking a holiday" felt to some extent like I was being pushed to the curb. That was around the one month of time off, but I think it's about the relationships that we form.