Jen, yes I am in a new relationship...14 wonderful months :) and we do talk a lot ! I ask him a lot of questions, and he calmly answers them, not always as soon as I ask..but he does say "I will answer you when I feel ready" and I respect him cause I always tell him "if you feel like talking" and "when you are ready"

I do push him sometimes, and so far, it has often given us good reasults, he even told me a few times " I needed that" but as Kathy says it is a very delicate situation and we have to know when to push and when to stay away. I am still learning with my bf :) We are always honest with each other, and I often tell him "I am sorry if I offended you, I am learning"

Rather than begin a new thread, I decided I might simply continue here. Evie has had a couple of stressful days, learned some very hard truths about herself. Not to mention my son Colin is deploying in a few days, and I believe that is catching up with her. Additionally I was very unkind to her for much of last week, whilst I was stressed myself. Result being, she woke up not speaking this morning, and is now "crashing" quite badly. Jim tried to push her to go out with him, however she refused, so we thought it best to give her a bit of space. She is lying down now. However we do expect her to get dressed and get up for dinner tonight, and hopefully she will speak to us later on as well.

One thing Evie did that was quite positive however, she wordlessly handed over her car keys to her father. He did not ask for them, however we assume that means she was thinking of running off again and decided to remove the temptation. In any event, it is a positive step, as she is working very dilligently to not run off when upset.

That has to be a good move on Evies part Kathy? To hand her keys over is very responsible.
It seems like she just needs a bit of time out at times hey?

Yep I was proud of her for handing over the keys. And. She talked to me. Her problem was none of the above that Kathleen mentioned. Something entirely different. Glad she talked though. She is somewhat better now. Dad saves the day again. ;-)

Re: a bit of time out Jen, I am fine with it, but not for more than a few hours. After that, it's too long in my opinion. Longer she goes without talking or going, worse it gets. She gets bogged down.

Jim.

I see what you mean Jim and I am glad she is feeling better!

Glad to hear Evie is bouncing back...

Very happy for you Evie on the new job... You are very good and should get paid for being good... Hang in there.......

Take Care

Donna & Ranger

Thank you Donna and yes, Evie is doing quite well now. I would say she is in the management stage of PTSD for the most part, or at the very least entering it. She must avoid certain situations and does have her bad days however she is a lot calmer for the most part. Some days I believe she is doing better than I am.

I will let her know you and Ranger said hello. She peeks in here on occasion however I am uncertain if she reads everything.