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View Poll Results: Do Your Family and Friends Support You in Healing Your PTSD?
Yes, they try very hard to. 14 15.56%
Somewhat, but I wish I had more support. 31 34.44%
No, not really. 36 40.00%
My family and friends try to sabotage my healing. 9 10.00%
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Old 13-02-2008, 12:41 PM
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My family do not live near by and do not know that I have PTSD. (my choice).
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My Doc signed me off work today for a futher 2 weeks, and suggested that I seek support from my friends and family - not really an option, when there is no-one who understands.
Oh, I don't know Cherryblossom, I think you ought to give your family a chance. The friends who do not understand you are not true friends as they don't accept you for who you are. I don't have PTSD and I have lost friends through life when I did things they did not understand. That is not my fault, nor it is a reflection of the type of person I am. Basically they just have different views/and or values. I accept PTSD in my life due to my love for Anthony. If I could take it away for him I would but would I leave him over it.... no way unless he was abusive....that is my choice and if I had a friend who had PTSD I would be the same if I cared enough about them.
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I think you ought to give your family a chance. The friends who do not understand you are not true friends as they don't accept you for who you are.
There are many reasons why I will not tell my family (too much to go into here, but it's not an option).

As for my friends not being true friends - I totally agree with you. However, sometimes a friend who doesn't understand (or doesn't really know you) is better than no friend at all, even if they hurt you in the long run. Because being alone and totally isolated is horrible. Anthony is a lucky guy to have you.
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I guess that sums it up - knowing that no-one really cares - and it's a pretty lonely place to be.
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I care...even though I am on the other side of the world... hence why I posted :)
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Correction on my behalf.... I do have friends with PTSD (from this forum) and I do care about them.
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Thanks Nicolette - I guess I realise that you (and maybe others here) care.

I should have said that "no-one in 'real-life' cares or understands me".

I totally appreciate all the support that I have had from this forum. But I also realise that all the help and support (and everything else) that I need/want, can not come from an internet forum.

I'm not knocking this place - it is great - a true life line, but I could really do with someone in real life who thinks I'm worth getting to know, instead of running in the other direction.

Does that make sense?
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I think it's really unfortunate that a lot of family aren't too supportive. Family have such an important role.. if they would only accept the responsibility, and assuming they aren't the ones who gave you PTSD in the first place! I know my sister wouldn't be nearly as far along in her recovery without the support of my parents and other extended family members. The Carers forum really shows how little support there is IMHO.. it's mostly made up of spouses and girlfriends/boyfriends. You rarely hear from parents, siblings or friends..
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No, my children are too busy. My sister is in denial about PTSD. I am partly to blame because I feel ashamed that yet, once again, I am trying to drag myself out of the mire of depression, anxiety and all of the rest. I am so disappointed that I have lost ground in my being able to handle this on my own. Why can't I just get on with life!

I don't want to go back for help. It costs big bucks for the therapy and the meds.

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My parents support me to a degree but often times I find that they just don't get it and I really don't think they want to. Just the other day my mom told me not to call it PTSD when they ask how I'm doing. Instead I should just say 'I'm not feeling well' or 'I'm depressed today!' Now I ask you why are those statements so much better than "I'm symptomatic today" or "It's my PTSD acting up?" It makes no sense to me really. In fact I'm probably gonna start a new thread on just that incident.

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