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10-03-2008, 06:53 AM
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Herc,
I say all of the time that "I don't care what anybody thinks about me" and I'm such a liar!! I care more than the average joe what EVERYONE thinks of me, to the point that, I know this is what is causing my agoraphobia.
The issue is obviously, all about self esteem.
I'm glad you were able to make a discovery.
Best,
Rachel |
10-03-2008, 07:15 AM
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Self awareness, and self discovery is such an eye opening thing.....Sometimes it's ok, and at other times it just sucks to know the truth. But so needed. |
12-03-2008, 02:41 PM
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Originally Posted by Grama-Herc  I have that awful "need to please" syndrome. I don't want anyone angry with me, upset with me or have any type of problem with me. Must be sure everyone is alway happy and liking me. | I've displayed a lot of that too. Trying to make my mother feel better so she would be less likely to explode. I find myself doing it with other people too... always trying to make sure people feel good about themselves and don't feel bad things towards me. It got to be too much to handle at times. |
12-03-2008, 03:46 PM
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You're not alone. I cannot handle reading about other people's trauma unless it's in the briefest detail possible. I have to skip through it, or I dissociate.
I guess it could be seen as selfish, but it's also just avoiding things that make you sick. |
12-03-2008, 10:24 PM
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Believe me, we have been taught how to please others over ourselves. I'm so good at making others comfortable and happy, and I seem to choose the ones who don't give anything back. Infantile love is what most people seem capable of.....But I"m choosing to believe there are people out there who really are capable to true, unselfish compassion. And I don't have to give up myself and my rights to get some of that compassion.
I don't think you are selfish at all. You have enough to deal with, let alone piling that on you.
I would take this from this forum what is helpful, inspiring and supportive, and (as they say in AA) leave the rest. No need to upset that little girl in you any more than she's already been upset.
I've read a lot of your postings, and if you're anything like me (more mature) your life has had enough of doubting yourself and your goodness.
You are good, probably more good than a lot of people. |
13-03-2008, 01:05 PM
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TLight
More mature HA HA you made a funny! I'm old! Well maybe not old old, but old and yes I have been through the wringer too. But we do survive don't we? I sometimes wonder how.
Never thought about my ""little girl"" self. I guess she was told at some point in her life that she was selfish. Never thought about that side of it. Cuz I have always felt like I was a selfish person inside. | | Thread Tools | | | | Display Modes |  Linear Mode | 
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