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21-03-2008, 04:56 AM
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| |  How Do You Deal With Your Anger?
just wanted to see what your reaction is to this question. me, personally, i have a tendency to want to be a recluse and become very quiet. i also have a tendency to hold a grudge.  its maybe not the best way to deal with it but i find it better than dropping a nuke on somebody for every little thing. respectfully, SM |
23-03-2008, 11:16 AM
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Shadowmedic
I'm working on it. I posted a long response and I'm searching the threads now to find it, I'm too lazy to type it all again. Mine has a little spin to it though, I don't feel anger, well I didn't use to feel anger. It is still hard for me to recognize at times. I was threatened as a child at knife point if I responded negatively - thus self preservation overrides any type of emotional response. I have had to learn to feel negative emotions and once I started I didn't know what to do with them so the result was this post. When I locate it I'll come back here and just post the thread and the # of the post.
cindy |
23-03-2008, 11:49 AM
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| | finally found it ... whew
Shadowmedic:
The post is in Chat PTSD - thread: major meltdown this weekend ... #7 posted on o5 o3 2008
Don't know if it will be useful but ?
Also I'll share with you, I recently gave a large bouncy ball to a friend going through a rough time, He thought I was nuts. About a week later, he confessed to me - Hey, that really works.
When in doubt, and desperate, try anything.   I'll keep thinking about it though because right now I am seriously angry at my Mom (86) and clueless of her part in my PTSD AND tomorrow I 'have' to pick her up for the day. 1, it's Easter and 2, Sunday is the only day I give her. |
23-03-2008, 12:49 PM
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Hey Shadowmedic -
I have anger issues. Basically, as a child (like Cindy), I was not allowed to cry or else I would be physically harmed if I did. Of course, when one cries it's because they are hurting or feel sadness. So in turn, I taught myself to feel nothing instead of something. Now, as an adult, whenever I'm hurt or sad or slightly irritated, I tend to become angry instead of showing the proper emotion.
At this stage in my life I am mostly numb but if there is emotion, it's usually anger. It's something I really want to resolve through therapy. I will say, my current meds has really helped a lot with the anger (I don't rage), so now I'm just mostly numb. But that's not healthy either.
Best,
Rachel |
23-03-2008, 03:35 PM
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For many years I was passive-aggressive and now I'm learning to set boundaries and be assertive otherwise I just internalize it.
Tammy |
23-03-2008, 07:56 PM
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| | Queen of internallizing anger (emotions)
Because I was not allowed to show emotions therefore permanently numb for most of my life until probably 3-4 yrs ago I know the outcome.
Internallized Anger = DEPRESSION
Try to express it someway; writing, physical exercise, sharing with a friend or therapist, 'pillow fight', ....
I usually know I am angry when - I can't eat, sleep, have a migraine, upset stomach, shaking my leg -
Internallized Anger = PHYSICAL AILMENTS
I've experienced all scales and levels of this spectrum. |
24-03-2008, 03:03 AM
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Before therapy.... I was a stark raving maniac. I would scream, throw things, swear like a truck driver, break things, and just basically look, feel, and act like a lunatic.
Now I try to identify my feelings. Mostly I just giggle and let things roll off my back. Sometimes I just get really frustrated, and nasty, but catch myself quickly and walk away. |
24-03-2008, 03:30 AM
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| | Anger
Hi sm,
At the 1st hint of anger I shut right the he** down. It's interesting to me when I recognize there are problems, and my significant other seems utterly clueless to what's going on, and REFUSES to do anything, see anyone - whatever. So instead of taking care of myself I've become extremely codependent, and as I wrote - shut down when things get heated. (Depression, anxiety, stomach problems -  ) I don't do well with confrontation either, but I am learning.
scm |
24-03-2008, 06:05 AM
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I don't deal with anger well at all. That is why I have to rework and reword everything in my mind before I say anything.
Usually, I become extremely quiet and try to hide it and then when it is least expected I EXPLODE about something irrelevant.
That's what I do, but it is not very effective. |
24-03-2008, 06:09 AM
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Originally Posted by Cecilia  I don't deal with anger well at all. That is why I have to rework and reword everything in my mind before I say anything.
Usually, I become extremely quiet and try to hide it and then when it is least expected I EXPLODE about something irrelevant.
That's what I do, but it is not very effective. | Me too. I have no idea when I am angry. I am not allowed to be angry. Trained and conditioned to not be angry by my mother first, then by my husband for 20 years. 
I left him almost 6 years ago. I am scared to get angry still. | | Thread Tools | | | | Display Modes |  Linear Mode | 
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