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Old 24-04-2008, 10:37 PM
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Our solicitor is apparently one of the best where we are so for now I will leave it in his hands. I get so frustrated trying to get any sense out of them that I end up yelling and swearing at them, which just makes me look stupid.

Cindy, I agree with you that it may just be his 'wanting to contribute'. He feels slack as he says, and the pressure from his family, my family and friends who don't understand what ptsd is is so strong that I know some of the things they say cut him to his core.

On the good side though; he has been doing the online learners test and has gotten 100% enough that he is now ready to try that. We have to go to a town called Dungog to make a booking, then they'll ring us and tell us his appt time and then he go and get his learners; which is a positive and means I won't have to drive everywhere!!! Not looking forward to sitting on 80kph on the highways though...

He has also started selling things on ebay which has given him something to do, and he enjoys it. If only he was only selling things and not buying. For example, yesterday he bought a car manual for a HJ Holden- and we don't even have a HJ Holden... Sometimes he makes me mad, but it gives him something to do so I won't complain too much!

He is slowly getting rid of all the crap he bought at an auction house that has been cluttering my house for months, so I am certainly happy about that!

He just seems to be so determined to do something more now. But I guess being 26 and retired because of PTSD is frustrating for him; although he mainly jokes about it now a days.

I just hope all of this crap with MCRS can be sorted out without causing him too much more negative emotions... fingers crossed
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Old 25-04-2008, 01:33 PM
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He has also started selling things on ebay which has given him something to do, and he enjoys it. If only he was only selling things and not buying. For example, yesterday he bought a car manual for a HJ Holden- and we don't even have a HJ Holden... Sometimes he makes me mad, but it gives him something to do so I won't complain too much!
While it sounds funny reading it, have you thought about why Alex does it? What does it give him? Is it the high from winning the deal or is it have more material possessions?
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Old 03-05-2008, 09:06 PM
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well I did ask him why he bought it and his reason was so simple... he simply wants to learn more about that type of car!!! Weird!
Alex and my Mum are both currently looking for now. They went to this mushroom farm to apply on Tuesday and were told to come back on Thursday to discuss wages and such things. Well when they went back on Thursday, all they did was fill out an application form- which they could have done on Tuesday! Neither of them are very impressed with that at all. The reason they are so upset by going back for two minutes to fill out a form is that the mushroom farm is a good forty minute drive from our house and then the forty minutes back again, all to fill out a form they could have done 2 days earlier. They did fill out the form and apparently they should get a phone call in about a week or two and if not 'they could drive back and call in to see what's happening'! Honestly it amazes me how people like this can run a business... but my fingers are crossed for them both.
Alex has been looking on the net for jobs on fishing trawlers as well, he would certainly enjoy that but as yet the only job going is in the NT. He is intent on getting a job though.
I just hope it all sorts itself out...
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Great to hear about the new home. The e-bay sounds good too. Have you shared with him how glad you are he is getting rid of the stuff. Maybe he could work at an auction house if he is interested in turning over estates? But sounds like you'll have to put him on a limit of home space for his stuff he purchases and the amount of stuff he can purchase within the family budget.

I know sometimes I go on buying spree's of beading stuff. I do it because it makes me feel good and I think I deserve it. I manage my expenditures though and limit myself. Sometimes I realize it is because I am filling a need I don't know I have - like being lonely or something. This is typical of PTSD I think.

Also, be happy he is still engaged in the here and now and interacting with life. That is a great sign.

Wishing you the best.

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