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09-05-2008, 03:58 PM
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| |  What's This About - Being Perfect?
 I have been doing a new job at work for the last 2 weeks and all I do is worry about my performance. I cannot come across as being incompetent (the inner voice says)and I know that I have to give myself a chance, but it is as though I am being judged by an invisible person. I know that person is one of my past abusers but I should not let this person interfere with my learning. It caused me a great deal of anxiety during the last couple of weeks, but I can't seem to stop the inner dialogue. It feels as though I will be fired should I not get it right right away. Has anyone else had this experience? I believe it is known as paranoia! |
09-05-2008, 05:21 PM
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Starting a new job is hard no matter what. It just seems like there is so much information to take in. I hated feeling like everyone else knew more than I did. Give yourself some time...it'll come. Two weeks into it is awfully early to start judging your performance. I don't know what you do for a job, but getting one is a milestone. Congrats! |
10-05-2008, 12:22 AM
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That same damn invisible person lives at my house and points out every flaw and makes me feel guilty if my house is not perfect. I wish he would pack his bags and move on out! That invisible person is harder on me than any boss I ever had. That invisible person is created by me.
I have to self-talk and say ok, invisible person, I hear you, but you are wrong. You are caused by my own creative thinking and right now in this moment, I choose to be positive and do what I can do in this moment and then move to the next. |
10-05-2008, 02:01 AM
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I do self-talk too, telling myself that the perfectionist is dead, that I only have to do my best, and that's all I can do. My work pleases me, because I know that I did the best I could do. All I have to do is please 2quilt's standards because if I try to please everyone else, I would never be successful. |
10-05-2008, 03:06 AM
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I've had to name my self talker. His name is Ralph and he is an idiot. He has no common sense and is extremely irritating. Because of that I get the yell and shout and scream at him. Just have to be careful to not do it in public, lest I end up in a soft and quiet room. Although some times that sounds like a nice place to relax!
Anyway, our self talk can be very destructive to us. I think we all do it and it is
something we all need to try and get a handle on before it does cause us trouble.
Listening to all the negative comments we make to ourselves is hard. |
10-05-2008, 05:14 AM
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If I could only put a gag on mine, things would be so much better. I am depressed, but the MOUTH in my head is making things a whole lot worse. |
10-05-2008, 05:52 AM
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That Ralph fella sure gets around! |
10-05-2008, 05:54 AM
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Personally I think Ralph is a "troll" Ha ! ! I made a funny!
And I meant for that to be funny, no smart arse or anything.  |
10-05-2008, 06:11 AM
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Originally Posted by Grama-Herc  I've had to name my self talker. His name is Ralph and he is an idiot. He has no common sense and is extremely irritating. Because of that I get the yell and shout and scream at him. Just have to be careful to not do it in public, lest I end up in a soft and quiet room. Although some times that sounds like a nice place to relax! |
You are so funny.....you make me laugh....
Tell Ralph I said hello! Take care. Sisu |
10-05-2008, 09:24 AM
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I named my guardian angel and I talk to it. My husband thinks I am crazy. Can you imagine if I start screaming at Ralph, too?
I'm so tired today a few days rest sounds very appealing! | | Thread Tools | | | | Display Modes |  Linear Mode | 
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