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View Poll Results: Do You Feel Guilty for PTSD Related Behaviour | |
Yes, often.
|   | 29 | 54.72% | |
Yes, sometimes.
|   | 15 | 28.30% | |
Not anymore.
|   | 5 | 9.43% | |
Seldom or Never.
|   | 4 | 7.55% | 
12-05-2008, 01:58 AM
|  | | | Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Indiana, USA
Posts: 245
| | I feel guilty for things. Especially when I snap at my husband or blurt out something mean I was trying to hold back because I knew it was irrational and PTSD related. | 
13-05-2008, 05:20 PM
|  | | | Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Canada
Posts: 585
| | I said "yes, often"...mostly when I snap at family members...Good poll Jim. | 
19-05-2008, 04:33 PM
|  | | | Join Date: May 2008 Location: Ohio, USA
Posts: 106
| | I answered yes, sometimes. Yes I do feel guiltly but at the same time, everyone knows my response to triggers, my reactions, and lack of interest is due to my PTSD. Yes, there are times when I cannot function , yes there are days and plans that get ruined, yes, at times I am an emotional mess. I decided that a lack of understanding and patience is detrimental to my success especially when I am not exhibiting destructive behaviors. | 
20-05-2008, 12:43 PM
| | | | Join Date: Nov 2007
Posts: 62
| | Yes, I slept all week and felt quite guilty about it, though nothing really suffered for it. | 
29-05-2008, 02:54 PM
|  | | | Join Date: May 2008
Posts: 117
| | I have some guilt on and off now - I know that sometimes I let things fall through the cracks at work because I'm dissociated.
In terms of past behaviour, I can see why I acted the way I did and I've mostly forgiven myself for that because I'm making amends for it now. I think part of the moving on from guilt for me is being accountable for past actions. I find it easier to forgive behaviour from the past when it was before I knew what was going on. However, recent behaviour is a bit trickier because now I know what I'm dealing with so there's this feeling that I should be able to control my reactions more. | 
15-07-2008, 06:01 AM
| | Moderated Member | | Join Date: Jul 2008
Posts: 19
| | I definitely feel guilty because I am supposed to be super mom and lately such a mess.
The house is a wreck and I feel so anxious about it but then don't do much about it. | 
22-07-2008, 12:13 PM
| | | | Join Date: Jul 2008
Posts: 26
| | i voted seldom or never i didn't know i had ptsd drink alot and did stupid things but i thought it was everones eles fault not mind if they only would leave me alone. when i quit over seventeen years ago than the problems begin in va mental hospital in knoxville iowa. i got many false diagnoses that a black nurse told the doctor he has symptons of ptsd than i started getting prober treatment. i don't feel quilty has alcholism and ptsd is and illness. even thou it is and illness i take resposenbilty for the wrong that i have done. | 
Yesterday, 01:29 AM
| | Moderated Member | | Join Date: Jun 2008
Posts: 10
| | I have an episode where I go numb and emotionless and I just don't feel anything toward people that I love. I went numb a couple of weeks ago and wanted to be alone because something really sparked my PTSD. My boyfriend was there and I just wanted to end it with him. I just didn't want him to see me like that but at the moment, most of all, I just did not want to depend on anyone else. I did not trust that he would be there for me or still love me. I came out of the episode and felt such intense guilt within a bit and cried to him. I felt like such a burden to him. I felt so guilty for hurting him for just being numb. It is like I can see myself doing the numb thing when I am in that moment and I see the effect it has on people but I can't stop it. I am getting better at controlling it but when I am in that place, I feel as though I could be alone forever and be fine with it. I am rambling but yes the guilt is with me every day. I am more to deal with than someone who does not have PTSD and I feel a burden and guilt over how I can behave. | 
Yesterday, 01:38 PM
|  | | | Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Indiana USA
Posts: 61
| | In no way do I feel guilty. I also understand my siblings behavior and two of them have done some pretty rotten things. They just did as they learned to do from our father | 
Today, 01:44 AM
|  | | | Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Arizona
Posts: 56
| | In the past, particularly before a correct dx, I felt very guilty for my behavior. I thought it was simply because I was a slime-filled, undisciplined, anti-social, self-indulgent horror.
Luckily, I went through a 12-step process and made amends for the behaviors, and now that I know what's really wrong, I feel less guilt and don't ruminate over all the damage to others (although I still am working on the regret/loss of all the years/time/opportunities, etc).
I have to take responsibility for my behaviors, sure, and I feel sad that I respond the way I do at times, but...not guilty so much anymore.
I very much related to Inicho7's post....way back when, before I received this dx (so didn't know what was wrong and hadn't done any work on it directly), I used to get triggered and "disappear" for days and days, sometimes up to a week or more. My partner would say she could look in my eyes and just nobody was there. I was completely shut down, remote, removed. Nothing could reach or touch me, and I so strongly resonated with, "when I am in that place, I feel as though I could be alone forever and be fine with it". Strange as it may seem, that shut down, removed state certainly was a break for me, albeit an involuntary one, from the day-to-day struggle that I lived back then.
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