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Old 07-07-2008, 04:58 AM
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Hallo to every one!

I'm from South Africa and the life partner of a Police Officer. And please excuse my spelling, I'm Afrikaans speaking.

We're having a relationship for the past 10 years. Most people think I'm totally crazy for having him still in my life, but that's the way the cookie crumbles...

It feels as if i'd come home after discovering this forum. For the goodness of this! Some place in the world there is people like me who WILL understand this thing!

We have seperated a year ago after we stayed together for about a year. The breakup was something horrific for me (actually for the both of us) and only after the breakup I was diagnosed with PTSD. During my counceling sessions, it came clear that we are two one of a kind persons. Fact being, I'm not the only one with the disorder, but most likely he will be the one first to have it and as a result me having it! It was the ultimate shocking news for me, but true...

From there my discision to stick with him. No need to tell you that he denied every single view of having PTSD. After having a breakdown himself, he at least acknowledge his own disorder.

We are both on medication and a new life has started for us. Some days are diamonds, some are stones. Sometimes it goes well, sometimes like the past 3 weeks, it's been hard, very hard.

At least of all, now I know WHY somethings are happening and WHY he reacts the way he does. And now I know better how to react to those things that made me wanting to kill him.

The bad side of this is, we love each other so much. Unfortunately with his kind of work in our country, I have to be the strong one, keep cool and accept his up and down behaviour.

I would like to hear from other Police Officer's life partners and how you deal with it.
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