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Old 18-10-2006, 12:35 PM
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WM, there is a right way to heal actually, the only difference is a slight modification to each step according to an individuals needs. For example, your anger and hostility towards myself, that is not a right way to heal, because the only person getting angry is you, not me, hence the only person being affected in a negative aspect is you, not me. That is a known wrong method to healing. Another right method to healing could be EMDR, however; because EMDR worked for one person, it doesn't mean it will work for another, because the severity of the trauma/s themselves depict whether or not a person is suitable to endure such a known therapy, being a right way to healing, but again, it works for some, not for others, more as an appropriateness vs. dangers involved in the treatment. There are endless right and wrong ways to healing PTSD, these are factual, not fictional, these are medical, scientific, researched and applied practice treatments which are positive direction methods to healing trauma, and manageing PTSD itself.

I used to be as angry as you are now. I was once angry at the world for everything that I had been labelled and suffering, though none of my anger was productive to me getting better, in fact it did only make me worse. You miss the point I believe, that I suffer PTSD myself, so your not telling me anything new in regard to what you feel, the symptoms or repercussions associated to PTSD, because I myself have walked the all mighty shit PTSD path to destruction, and woken up to myself to now be a much better person within, and to others, life, my children, family, friends and strangers.

As cookie said, your posts have that edge to them all, the same edge I picked up because I have been where you are now, though without the ABS... so your really not telling me anything new in regard to anger WM. I looked at your name "wounded me" when you registered, and I wondeded whether that meant you where looking for sympathy, looking for someone to unleash your anger upon, looking for someone to agree with your destructive thinking styles. My first presumption was correct I believe, because this is what you want, however I cannot give this too you. You can yell, scream and cuss all day long at me here, but nobody is being affected except you. I am only looking at you thinking to myself, "geez, this person needs serious help, its a shame they don't really want it".

There is a difference to being angry at the world, and then directing that anger to people themselves. I have been there, done that one, know full well from my own experience. I used to punch people for no reason, I had used a persons weapon on themselves, I have broken peoples bones because they looked at me the wrong way, and the list goes on. You can't tell me about your anger WM, because I have lived it, and I can see what you are also living from my own experience.

Getting past our anger is one of the most difficult things to do, because we cannot begin to heal until we do so. Anger is an emotional response, nothing more, nothing less. Frustration is often the cause of anger, though many other emotions play a role within it. Finding those emotions, finding the reasons for those emotions, help us to find the control we need, we desire to control anger, thus opening the pathway for us to heal effectively.

What defines your path to getting better, is the choices you make. There is no right or wrong in these choices, because they are what you percieve to be the best for you at the time. We often make a choice then look back later and tell ourselves it was a bad choice, or a good choice. My words to you here are getting confused within your anger, your rage, as not only what I am saying to you, but most likely anything anybody says too you. Your anger is controlling you, it is controlling what you take in, it is controlling what you hear. If this is what makes you happy, then this is right for you, but again, what is right for you does not mean I must agree with you, because I don't see your anger as helping you at all, nor your self sympathy towards your anger, life and the world. Anger is destructive, and the only person it ultimately destroys, is ourselves.

If you want help WM, if you want to discuss, then again, we are here for you to do that, but if you just want to displace your anger and direct it towards myself, or another here, then that is not acceptable, because so many people here suffer the same as what you do, and they want to heal, they want to get better, and they are prepared to listen to everyone and take what they need personally from every members comments, without displacing unwarranted anger towards another because of their opinion.

I guess we will see if you reply, whether its in anger, or whether you can discuss these thoughts. Just remember before you reply, your anger is only affecting you, not me.
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Know what...youre still accusing me of things Ive not done before you started accusing me.....you say I direct my anger towards people on the board, but the only ones Ive been angry at is the doc and the phone woman....neither are on the board, so why do you keep harping on me having taken out my anger on people on here???????? I never have until you started to unfairly assume things about me, and firing off accusations, and cookie, if youd read my replies carefully then youd realize that I have NOT been impolite to anyone here except for anthony after he started to project his own issues with frustration on me....

Know what....the ones that really have issues are you guys because youre pathologically and automatically referring everything to yourself...that is, when I say the secretary pissed me off you automatically feel as if I had said you piss me off....you seem to be unable to distinguish between yourself, and others.....which is actually pretty insane.

I also think some on here are nuts...youre not fully normal....and I also see that your way of overcoming ptsd is suppressing and eradicating any emotions you have, until you become emotionless......its no wonder you accused me of things Ive never done, after all since you suppress your own frustrations, you have to project them on other people and feel as if theyre against you.....which is not true, because before you were rude, I did not take out my anger on anyone on the board, and only because my posts were edgy doesnt mean its directed against you....well now they are cuz you just started patronizing me, critizising, and accusing me without even having reasons except your own issues....I dont need to put up with people just projecting things on me.

You guys are nuts.....Ive also talked to a good friend about it (I do have friends that love me and I really dont depend on an internet forum for help), and she is a nurse, and she also thinks youre nuts.....she knows people with ptsd and she says most of them are nuts....and suppressing every emotion and then thinking that everything others say is directed against you...this is nuts....and you know what, now I really am against you, but only since you started to be rude and unfair.by accusing me...

Ill tell you what...only because youve been successful at eradicating your emotions doesnt mean youre a better person...in fact, youre a worse person because now instead of openly being aggressive, youre passively directing your unacknowledged frustrations out on me by accusing me unjustified....

And when you say youve broken peoples bones...I dont know if you mean that figuratively or literally, but if its meant in a literal sense then I can only say you really are insane, and a dangerous person....I mean its obvious that you were severely violent, and now youre also violent, only in a more subtle way....
To your information, just because youre violent and insane doesnt mean others that have anger must be as strange in this respect as you are...youre just projecting your distorted view of reality on me by accusing me of things Ive never done before...just because Im angry at doctors doesnt mean I was angry at you guys....but now I am, cuz youre really just impossible.

Im out a here because I value myself enough so that I dont want to have anything to do with people that are just unfair and abnormal....all I wanted was to find out if people know what helps for chronic pain, but no one knows anything, so I dont have any business here anyway...

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Old 19-10-2006, 11:53 PM
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Ta ta wounded... I don't thing anyone here is nuts, not even you. You are angry, you are spiteful, you cannot see past your own nose, but hey, that is you obviously in your infinite wisdom.

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