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17-11-2006, 09:24 AM
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Thanks Jods,
I shall pop over now :) |
17-11-2006, 03:35 PM
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I'm glad BC.
Although to admit I'm kinda wishing that my friend had reacted to this like you did. You see, when I told my best friend and flatmate about my ptsd and what caused it, she freaked and told me a couple of days later that she couldn't deal with me.
I'm proud that you have enough support of your friend that you will be there for him, even when he tries to push you away.
(Now I'm not sure if I'm talking to you, or about me!!!:dont-know ) |
17-11-2006, 07:15 PM
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Hi G,
I would never dream of dropping any friend of mine just because they are in trouble, that to me isn't friendship. But then I guess that is me. I was talking to a friend of mine last night who felt helpless this week because he didn't know what he could do for me and he wanted so much to help because when I met him he was depressed and suicidal as his partner of 13 years had died and he HIV+, actually diagnosed with AIDS and he was at the end of the road. I did my best to help him and seeing him getting a spark in his eyes again in itself was incredible. And now he was telling me that he is starting his PHD next year. I am just so amazed and proud of my friend because I know where he was.
Having said that, I guess it takes a certain kind of person and not everyone can or is willing to help and nurture their friends.
If you need, you have a new friend here (but beware this one does tend to talk a bit!)
Thanks & take care. |
17-11-2006, 08:46 PM
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Hi G,
cycling in to work I've had more time to reflect on your friend's reaction. Maybe I was a bit hasty in my reply. Not everyone has the strength or the capacity. At least she was honest enough to tell you that she couldn't cope rather than avoiding you. Yes, it's a pity she couldn't be there for you but she told you at the outset rather than later down the line.
Take care for now. |
20-11-2006, 01:11 AM
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snuggles lots. It didn't make it any less shattering to have me bare my soul to her and have her freak out on me.
curls up close. Just really pisses me off that she left me with no other option then to moveback to mum and dads, and to bro dearest, which isnt helping any.
I always take care hon, if I don't I'd be gone by now. |
22-11-2006, 06:35 PM
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Hi G,
oh no, never meant to say it lessened what you did. I am certain it was the hardest thing to open up like that and it certainly wasn't a reaction you had counted on. And it surely hasn't made things easy for you.
I found out that in times of trouble you discover who your real friends are. When it comes down to it not many are willing or can be bothered to stand by you but those who do you know will always be there. The others just suddenly avoid you - not many admit that they do not have the capacity.
Got to run to work now. Hopefully catch up with you soon. |
23-11-2006, 10:28 PM
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Thank you BC.
Hell if life were easy, it'd stop being interesting lol. | | Thread Tools | | | | Display Modes |  Linear Mode | 
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