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13-09-2006, 10:44 PM
| | | | Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: North Qld Aus
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Hi Kerri Anne
I have a feeling it is going to be a struggle. As I said to him in our marriage which is 25 years next month I have put up with a lot but I am putting my foot down about this I insist that he does this clinic for us! We cant go on living like this or life is going to get pretty lonely I am not going to grow old with someone who doesnt want to help himself patience wears thin after a while.
Jen |
13-09-2006, 11:30 PM
|  | | | Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Melbourne, Australia
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Yep, Jen, I think you are right. After putting up with this for 25 years I think you have a right to say enough is enough. You've sure got more patience than me, I tolerated it for two 1/2 years and that was enough for me. You are also a lot more polite than I was with Anthony, but he's a lot younger and very pig headed. Only way to deal with him is straight up. I didn't even bother insisting, it was basically VVCS card, deal with it or I'm out of here. Like you, I point blank refuse to waste my life with someone who knows they have an illness but won't help themselves heal. You both deserve better!! Please keep us posted as to how you are both going, keep strong, I'm in your corner. |
14-09-2006, 12:52 AM
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Good on you Jen! I'm hoping your hubby realises what a wonderful wife you are & you are thinking about your future together rather than staying stuck in the past with his fears. Big Hugs to you!
Kerrie-Ann, you are an amazing woman! I don't think that many people would be brave enough to take on a partner with PTSD. At least you could see beyond all the bs of the illness & see the man you love. That is an amazing gift & I hope Anthony realises how lucky he is to have you & your boy & boo. |
14-09-2006, 12:50 PM
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I agree 100% with Jods, Anthony is a lucky guy. Good luck to all! |
14-09-2006, 08:46 PM
| | | | Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: North Qld Aus
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Thank you for your support everyone it means a lot!
Jen |
14-09-2006, 10:03 PM
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Originally Posted by jods  Kerrie-Ann, you are an amazing woman! I don't think that many people would be brave enough to take on a partner with PTSD. At least you could see beyond all the bs of the illness & see the man you love. That is an amazing gift & I hope Anthony realises how lucky he is to have you & your boy & boo. | Jods,
Thanks for the kind words. It really wasn't a case of being brave, simply a case of no choice. I was scared that he would tell me to go, as he had many times before but it was different this time.......I was serious in my resolve to have some action or I really was gone. Maybe he could see that or maybe it was blind luck and he was ready to seek help. Whichever of those it is I don't care. I loved him then, as I do now but you have to draw the line between love and self-punishment. It was a gamble and it paid off but I wouldn't suggest anyone try that path unless you really are prepared to go. Anyhow, I'm going to point your post out to him. | | Thread Tools | | | | Display Modes |  Linear Mode | 
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