Jods,
I'm happy for you both. My thoughts are with you.

Hey Jods,

Good start. They need help initially and in some cases ongoing that only a professional can provide. As much as we love them we have limits too!! You both should be pleased with yourselves........its a really good start.

And that it will Jods, that it will. Congrats on getting this into place, a great step forward for you both. It is going to hurt for a while, moods, and the worst PTSD may have to throw towards you, but it gets rapidly better once it all comes out.

Hi

Hope that everyone is is doing well.

Hubby has started trauma therapy, so far so good. It was quite funny because the day of his 1st appt he had to go solo as it was also my psycologist appt that day. Talk about your family therapy day! lol

My doc said that I am becoming a stronger person,which I feel is a good thing. If I cant look after myself then how can I look after my boys.

Hope all you partners/carers are looking after yourself & taking the time to just be.....you! Be kind to yourselves.

Jods

Hey Jods,

Funny you should mention taking care of us!

My husband and I just had this discussion about 'monkeys' and my health. I have been quite unwell recently and unable to rebound due to carrying this little bub. I have had quite a stern talking to from the doctors as they are concerned about potential premmy labour if I am not careful. I am now taking maternity leave earlier than planned and have to handball some of the home activities that I just tend to pick up to Anthony. Nothing I can do about that. So, I am in the processes of (as difficult as it is) attempting to let go of some things and just get on with taking care of my own and baby's health. Much easier to do the first time around as you get to be a little more self-indulgent about your own care.

Not only have we had to talk about this but also Anthony's current tendency (old habits die hard) to not tell me when he is unwell. I have given him the boot reference that, it works so much better when you understand that PTSD is giving them a kicking because you can work around that......otherwise you think they are just being a pain in the ass.

Good to hear that you are feeling better and that your husband is getting some counselling. It takes the load off you a little and consequently reduces the home stress environment. Take care of you.

Hi Kerrie-Anne,

Hope you & bubs are doing well & you are taking some well deserved me time.

It has only been in the last month or so that I have learnt to "let go" of things & allow hubby to step up to the plate when I've realised that if I don't, I will crash & burnout.

I know this trauma therapy is going to bring out the worst I've yet to see in PTSD & its going to be a long, hard road. Bring it on- I'm feeling stronger than I have in months & I'm ready to take this journey with the man I love.

I know hubby is scared but I have reassured him that I'm not going anywhere. I have also told him he is not to BS to his doc or me.

We go to his appt tomorrow. He will see the doc & I'm going for sushi. Wish us luck!

Be kind to yourself
Jods

Jods,

It is good that you are learning the lesson of 'letting go' quicker than I did. I am still working on that! It will make the tough road easier for you and you are right, sometimes they just have to dig deep and step up to the plate. Burn out is something that none of the support people can afford and the only way to avoid that is to take care of us too!! I really should follow my own advice but as I said I am getting better at that.

On that note, I have a uni assignment to get stuck into and some more food to eat. Take care, keep the positives with you.

Hi well I came home from work today with the shits just money problems as always. My husband wanted to know what was wrong so I told him about a few money problems I was having with our business. Well his mood went down straight away I think I need to learn that I shouldnt tell him things like this because it upsets him to much!
Bugger gone are the days when you could talk to your husband about anything we have been married 25 years he is just so different. Sorry I have the shits tonight I might ring my Mum!!
Jen

Jen

Let it out, if we don't b***h to someone we'll go mad!

What a weird week!

Hubby was told today that he has to go twice a week to this trauma therapy sessions & the doc is happy with his progress so far.
It's knocking the crap out of him but I remind him that it's gotta hurt so he can heal.
As for me: In a month our finances are going to drop quite a bit so I thought that it was about time that I pick up the slack & see if I could return to my former workplace.(I left about 4yrs ago due to having our son).
I went in yesterday just to put the feelers out & when I went in today they said they would fast track my application so I can get back in ASAP.
Then after finding out about hubbys extra sessions I freaked out a little bit because we can only get childcare for the two days that hubby has his appt. This will mean that hubby will have to deal with our son when I go to work. He said that he is all for me going back to work but I'm a bit worried about the extra stress it may put on him while he is going through this therapy.
I know, I'm worrying too much but it is just nice to be able to share my good news that my old boss thinks enough of my work ethic to pull some strings to get me back. Well done me!
Sorry for rambling- Hope everyone is well