You said it, Piglet. Well said.

Amen, Piglet. Honestly, though...I don't have time for the fake ones.

I do, however, have acquaintances as I'm sure most of us do. They are mostly the people I work with. I would NEVER discuss any of this with them!

Your welcome. We all need it Kim... I certainly did, and my wife certainly gave it too me. I knew the answers, but did the same things, and looked straight past them, and presumed everything was much more difficult than it actually was. Life is a very simple thing, we only choose to make it harder through our own physical and mental projections.

Now your talking. There are always underpinning factors stemming emotions that cause anger. Find them, fix them, and anger is no longer a problem. Spouses are sometimes the cause, but more often than not, generally the person who cops our abuse for no real apparent reason, or a reason we rather find to help ourselves find relevancy to our actions. Spouses do play a significant role in our general day to day attitudes, even though they find it hard to accept, it is true. My wife has certainly made limitations on certain things to help me cope better, though it had to also be give and take, not just give from her, and you must take that into account also Kim. This stuff is now getting down into normal relationship aspects, though we generally find it hard to differentiate them when PTSD is involved. Spouses also get confused with this, as they think everything is PTSD related, when in actual fact some issues are nothing more than normal relationship issues, that every couple endure regardless of whether PTSD is present or not. The best way to find them all if unsure is ask other couples. It is often then just the level, or intensity, that PTSD often has a significant factor within, not the actual issue itself.

Now you have a few of the issues isolated in regard to what is stemming your anger, now you need to break them down into what is normal relationship parts, and what are PTSD parts, ie. intensity or actual issue itself. Write them here if you want help from everyone, as more opinions and experience often help us to quickly assimilate what is normal, and what is PTSD.

This is a problem in itself Kim, and very understandable as a common aspect of PTSD. I think everything I could tell you on where to start, I have posted in this self esteem thread already.

Positive actions and thoughts already is a good sign Kim, that your starting to accept more of what is going on, and in time things will come together. You will have many more ups and downs with PTSD, though its just the measure and duration of them that will get much better.