I have have a little of both. I have one single event that is a large factor, but I also experienced what my psychiatrist calls "extended exposure to extreme trauma," which would fall into the "many incidents throughout my lifetime" category.

Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind and what better than telling someone the cold hard facts that they may not really want to hear.

Good on you Jim for some tough love!

No offence Evie but what more could you ask for than the truth?!

Yes he is brutally honest. Tough love is his middle name I think.

Oh, I think between Kathy and Jim they have you totally covered with love Evie (and you deserve it).

I have quite a few!!!!!!!!I am still trying to "work" through them all. i know I will get there I didn't think it would be quite this hard or take so long. Take Care Evie!!!!!!

I chose "many incidents throughout my lifetime”. I can’t count them. Don’t want to try too either.

Long term child abuse, emotional abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse, several tornadoes during and after the child and sexual abuse, two hurricanes, one truck explosion, one child (three months old) being kidnapped, multiple death threats, phone harassment, automobile accident, losing home in long legal battle to pay for attorneys in regards to several of the aforementioned, physical/emotional/verbal/sexual abuse during marriages, having car stolen and used in an armed robbery, subsequent trial and retraumatization of having to recall for jury a blow by blow detail of the experience and being villified upon cross examination by the defense lawyer, more phone harassment, stalking and property damage, another tornado with flooding, being uprooted and moving - loss of income, daughter age 7 sexually abused, long involved recovery for her, finding out it was the son of the man who had abused me some twenty years prior, fighting and losing custody battle for eldest child while simultaneously involved with state officials on report of incest regarding daughter, finding out husband is having multiple affairs, finding out husband addicted to pornography, caring for his invalid mother an alcoholic (cleaning, buying groceries, cooking, running errands 3X's per week for 12 years) and raising my children as well as my husband's children from his previous marriage and working and going to church three times per week holding a teaching position there, and multiple offices in county and local horse clubs to keep children busy and occupied and teach children to overcome fear/trauma and gain confidence, starting a business and having the funds embezzeled by partner, disolving partnership and business, moving again with horses and children, children being attacked by radical extremist group who were meeting illegally on property, subsequent investigation regarding the radical group whose activity involved racial profiling, pushing for measures for protection of home and family as well as animals, property and outbuildings, multiple thefts and home invasions, moving again. There is more but I'm tired right now and this is not good for me to be remembering so much.

From the time I was adopted 1 year to 18 years. Emotional stuff from my Mom still. another 20 years. I have just realized it.

Too numerous to list all. In the last year alone: attempted murder, medical abuse, 2 secondary traumas (witnessed a dog shooting and a female being physical assaulted(I called 911)) and 2 deaths of family members. Man I can't believe I'm alive.