When it comes ptsd, and i have complex ptsd, I would rather have someone around that kind of understands it then someone who i know i will have to take charge of.
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ummmm...

could you explain what you mean a bit more? I could interupet that a few ways...

bec

Yeah, that was kind of vague. I am female, and very strong, a take charge person. And when I date, I try to find someone as strong, though it seems impossible.
It comes down to this more or less, if two people are sleeping and they both get awoken by a noise, who gets up?
It's always me.
And it comes to play as far as if I have to protect even more people with no equal help in a partner, I feel superior, physically and mentally, and at the age of 44, I feel to grown to babysit.
I guess protection mode kicked in way to early for a person, I was three and my brother was five, and I protected him until he died of Huntington's disease at the age of 35.
When I meet someone I let them know who I am immediately, and that my flashbacks will not interfere with their life, and no they don't have to do anything, and no I won't go berserk, and yes I am fully aware of what I am going through etc. I try to be by myself anyway since I talk through it and reveal very horrific events, and don't want to let others hear such things.
I just want someone around who gets it and me, basically is what I meant.
I don't want anyone around that wants minor boo boos constantly coddled.
But as far as real terrors, I have a heart of gold for them.
I am an ego booster for others, just would like to have one around in my corner on occasions, but that means they would have to understand me, and that is a hard find.

Whatcha doin this weekend? Need some protection?
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War Hippy you crack me up!

Yes warhippy is great. I have a fond kinship with vietnam veterans. I understand them all too well.
Thanks warhippy

WarHippy, I like that! I'm getting a little tired of being annoyed with my symptoms--annoying or not, they're sticking with me! Might as well get a good point of view on 'em.

Well, I was being serious. I guess I do have to say, when I tell about my life, most people do start laughing, or say, "You've GOT to be joking!". Truth is, it was just a life to me. When I was involved in Alcoholics Anonymous, I used to speak often at the jails and institutions meetings. It never failed, after the meeting, at least two inmates would walk over to me and say, "We thought we had it rough, but if you can get sober, we know for sure it will work for us". And most of the time, I skimmed over the bad parts. I have to admit, I would have really liked a lot more of a Love life, but, if inmates relate to me, I'm probably lucky for what I did have. But, shit howdy Ladies, it might have been funny (YUK YUK) but it was all true, even the 4 kills.
Respectfully,
WarHippy1%

I understand what whitewolf is saying.

Better to be with those that know first hand from their own experiences what the hell we are living with really is instead of some pencil-pushing college grad that read about it in a damn book and now thinks they know all about it when in reality they don't know jack shit except how to make it worse without really understanding that they're making it worse.


It's like trusting a 9 year old kid to drive an 18 wheeler. Sure, there's a kid or two out there that age than can drive one, but do you wanna trust one and risk finding out that they can't?

Ohhh I've knocked around this concept a time or two. Hehe, told Anthony we should start a PTSD dating site for PTSD'ers! LOL..

Anyways, I don't know what the answer to this is, perhaps a balance between a partner having compassion, knowledge, willingness to learn and some understanding. Remember though that a relationship takes two and we need to be willing to be patient and give prospective partners a chance too.

Aside from that, I get really annoyed with non-sufferers that give out really stupid advice because it works for them! My thoughts are read up on it before opening your big stupid mouth!!

bec

P.S. I'm single and staying that way for now. Focusing on my son and I healing is so much more important that dating some frigging man.