Hi everyone the thing I am having to deal with at the moment is that whatever I say to hubby he says I am snapping at him and talking to him like shit!
My God even my daughter says that he speaks to me like shit and why do I put up with it!:angry-fla
I have to put up with it as I am still recovering from an op and I ( we) need him to hang in there and run our business if he fell off the rails now we could end up in financial problems.
Talk about treading on egg shells even my parents felt like they had to be careful in how they brhaved around him. They came and looked after me for a couple of weels after op.
I am recovering slowly from major surgery he was so good when I first became sick but the novelty has worn off.
Thanks Jen!

Hi Kathy,

Let me just say, I can certainly find lots of ways for you to help if you desire. Firstly, I need a new moderator of the private carers forum, considering I do not have access to it myself, so I cannot manage nor moderate anything said or done within it. Kerrie is not really active here anymore, so that negates her holding the position I believe.

I think some of the issue no doubt came down to Kerrie and I separating, and that people likely split both ways. Not sure, just a guess. If you want to boost carers Kathy, then I can certainly give you some more power in order to manage all carers aspects if you want it.

Oh of course, I should have thought about the separation. Not sure why that slipped my mind, but you are likely correct, Anthony.

I am honoured to have you consider me for a moderator or other such things. I would be pleased to devote some time daily to such an endeavour. Only I fear I am not a computer expert by any means, is it very difficult? I would be more than willing to learn however. So yes, I happily accept if there is something you feel I am capable of doing.

Fantastic Kathy! You sound like you'd be great at the job.

Nicolette :claps:

Errr.. Anthony, that is when it took the dive. I did not want to say it, but it was so. I assumed others were like me wondering when someone would state the obvious, like the elephant in the room everyone is ignoring. People move on. Life and relationships change. I only was surprised it crashed in here so hard.

I know my hubs tries to make time but considering the ungodly hours that man works to come home to me and crazy kids... When he does sit still for a few minutes I hear snoring. I refuse to wake the poor guy. Except to relocate to bed. Plus he is teaching a teen to drive (eeekk) Thank goodness it is light out here until after 9 PM. Him relocating to Kansas is kicking his ass.

Errr. Nicolette, you don't wanna hear from my husband, or is it I don't want him to vent? LOL. But it is good to have you on board. And I agree Kathy would be good. There does need to be an active area to vent about us. We sure don't want to hear it :P

Hi Veiled
We would love to hear from your hubby!!
Jen

Congratulations Kathleen, and good luck!

Jim.

Hmmmmmm.... not sure why that wasn't mentioned veiled, like as we all know, its the obvious I believe. I don't know if it was really Kerrie's input, but more mine, as so much of my life has been consumed with the change the last few months, I haven't been around her myself. Like anything, when I suddenly began posting vigorously again, traffic soured back into the site. Dangerous stuff IMHO... lucky the pressure doesn't get to me I guess. It is the obvious, and I notice the changes throughout the forum as I have not been around, but people must learn IMHO to continue working on themselves without my help or support, they must learn the reality that no one, two or more persons will constantly be their to hold their hand and guide them, and they must take action themselves.

I did notice a lot of people doing this though, the people who are quite within their healing process already, continue their great work and not only helping themselves, though others, whilst I have been a lesser participant here. Slowly I am getting more back into here, its not just seperation though, but more I have some hobbies which I am currently putting some much needed time as I have avoided them because of the forum, so now I have to do some upgrades, fix other things, improve and so forth with is all time consuming, especially web related hobbies.

The last couple of weeks went into a directory list I run, upgrading and redesigning the site with improved features, options, etc. I have others to achieve yet also... one will take a great deal of my time, though trying to mix myself between everything at once. Not always the best option... but my only option at present to please others and myself.

Ummm, I don't think you've told me your husband's name veiled.....LOL
Thanks for the welcome and I think the venting process may possibly be a two way street ;-P

Very true Anthony, and important not only here upon this forum but in "real life" as well. Even among family or spouse, there is no one "magical" person who is able to be there for another constantly, and solve all of their problems. To believe so is a form of dependency.