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Old 28-08-2007, 10:53 AM
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He said to me last night that he knows he is cranky but wants me to give him space I have no problem with that he can have as much space as he likes! I said to him that he knows that I am there if he needs to talk or a hug he asked me to leave him alone.
Thats his problem he doesnt talk about his feelings he just lets things bulid up and up!
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Old 28-08-2007, 11:04 PM
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I know its not alwase good to keep things in and let them build up.. but sometimes people need that time to sort stuff out in there heads first before going to someone to talk. With a death in the family I think this might be more so then when its something else that happens. I would just talk normal day to day stuff.. and be ready if and when he does break down and cry/talk or whatever. Just don't let it go on for months and months sort of thing! I do think in general guys deal with issues different them females.. they are brought up and taught to be strong and not show emotion. Hang in there and make sure to do what you can for yourself too!
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Old 29-08-2007, 12:38 AM
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So how are you doing Jen? Are you able to find some time for you to go out with the girls & just let it out.

You know the signs & pattern of your hubby's illness. If you think you need to contact his doc or Martha or a friend of his to help him through this then go for it. You are still recovering too & I'm sure this isn't helping you much either. It's ok to ask for someone to share the load when you know you aren't 100% to deal with all this.

Sending you big gentle hugs!
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Old 29-08-2007, 10:52 AM
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Hi Jods yeh I am doing ok a couple of little setbacks health wise but getting better slowly!
I havent been able to get together with the girls lately as been busy with the business and with hubbys dad passing away. Hope to get with them next week! I got an email of Martha to tell hubby that they have a support group every Monday afternoon I am going to talk to him about it?
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Old 30-08-2007, 10:14 AM
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Well he hit the wall yesterday I am trying to do the business myself but I needed him to come and lift something into the ute for me for a delivery. He dragged himself out of bed about 11am and came in and seemed ok for a bout an hour then when we had done the delivery and came back to the shop his mood changed. I dont even know what triggered it off something stupid about not liking how I had a in and out tray on the desk?
He hung around for a little while I could see he was really getting worked up I told him to go home as I was ok. He said he could feel himself getting shitty so went home. I got home after work and he was crashed on the lounge he went to bed then got up about midnight for a snack then back to bed? I am really going to try and get through work without ringing him over the next couple of days I will ring my daughter I just dont want him here at the moment!
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Sorry to hear about your hubby Jen.
Good idea about keeping him out of your way at work, you don't need the extra stress too. Please don't lift anything that you shouldn't. I'm sure your daughter will only be to glad to help out her mum so don't be shy in asking her!

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Old 30-08-2007, 02:26 PM
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Thanks Jods he rang me this morning and said he thinks he has not been great as he just realised he hasnt been taking all his meds properly? He reckons he will come in tomorrow and help we will see?
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Old 31-08-2007, 11:36 AM
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Well this morning after he dragged himself out of bed he said he felt a bit better that lasted 30 seconds! I got yelled at for moving his water bottle to a different area on the bench come on! I am not going to go through the emotional abuse again he told me I am self centred I have no idea what he is going through he had so much anger this morning while yelling at me! I think I might take off for the weekend somewhere where I dont get treated like shit!
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Me again sorry but I am not sure what to do! Should I stay here over the weekend with him but just try to avoid him I just have a feeling he needs to be by himself well he gives me that impression!
I dont know whats going through his head he just hates me at the moment yep I know he is fragile because of his dad passing away. Or do I go away and give him space for a couple of days he is quite depressed I feel! Because I really dont want all this stress thats going on as it is not helping with my recovery?
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What does he want Jen? Has he told you? Long as your not worried about him being suicidal, a break might be in order. Two days isn't long. He can have space, you can have a nice weekend rest. Kill two birds with one stone. Sounds good to me.

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