Well Herc, look like the time is now for you to decide what kind of life you want. If you want we can discuss this here or in PM.

I for one would like to see this continue here. Not often someone puts that mirror up and makes us look.

Agreed Veiled.

OK we can continue this for a while, but I would like to see others in this forum place the mirror in front of themselves. Who else wants to jump into this.

I must admit that I thought the term" get a Life" was always a form of an insult directed toward others. Never, ever thought it would apply to me! But exactly what does it mean anyway?

Can you answer that one Jack?

It's funny that this issue is a topic in the forums because I was just thinking about this issue today. Before my father passed he said two things: I have done everything I wanted to in life, and I have lived a good life. My interpretation is:

1) I have done everything I wanted to - I have travelled, experienced, felt, loved. Basically have done all the things for one's SELF that he needed.

2) I have lived a good life - I shared resources, goodwill and time to causes I believe in. In other words acts to OTHERS that would benefit them.

I think that life means both. I think that you have to be balanced in both one's self and giving to others to "live". I certainly haven't, and can't even get myself out of the house most of the time. I totally understand needing to get "a life".

Hey "Chez" I see you are new to our little corner of the world. So welcome and jump right in. We may all be a little "off" but we are friendly and willing to help.

Your interpretation of what a life is has really touch me. Much to my surprise, I think that I may actually have a life if I use your guide lines.

As for getting out of the house. How do you explain how it feels to other people. Been trying to explain this feeling to my mom for years and I know I'm not getting my point across. I find it very difficult to explain how all the "stuff" feels. Words just don't seem to get my point across. OOPS! Wondered off onto one of my own side issues. Sorry! I am easily side tracked.

Thanks for your input and interpertation of A LIFE! HERC

hey chez, thanks for your interpretation of life. #2 I do to much always taking care of everyone else. #1 don't really do at, and don't have any type of balance in my life. But I'm a work in the making so maybe some day I'll get there.

opps, forgot to say welcome Chez and hey herc. Happy thanksgiving to you all!!

Nope. Only you can define it. What kind of life have you wanted? What kind of goals did you have, and do you have now? What was your dream of becoming?

Good morning Sir Jack I always wanted the kind of life every little girl dreamed of. A husband, kids and a nice home and happiness. Guess you could say the kind of life you saw on TV in the 50's and 60's. My mom says my childhood was full of stress, stress and more stress. She says I had a father who treated me like shit and was very cold and unloving me. Never found my happy ever after married life. never had a place to call my own and my kid will have nothing to do with me. My life was full of some really bad choices which have lead me to my current life

It was only late in life when the fog of drugs and drinking cleared that I found my true calling. Unfortunately due to my limited education and the amount of education needed to fulfill my dream, it ain't gonna happen! ! !

All that sounds a bit on the morose side but it is actually a real,true, exact and matter of fact description of my life. I have, however, been given a second chance so I can repair the damage I did to my relationship with my Mother. The most important part is I am now able to make up for the misery I put my mother through over the years. She is a good woman and deserves to be treated with respect which I am now doing.

I have moved mother in with me and I am taking care of her with all the love and respect she deserves. To my surprise I am actually enjoying our new found relationship. We seem to be growing closer with each passing day and our line of communication is better than ever. Each evening we sit down after dinner and TALK! We talk about anythng and everything. We both are enjoying the the path our lives have taken over the past few months. We actually have fun and laugh at the dumb things we do. I know my mother is enjoying watching me get old and forgetful. It just seems to be a perfect fit for both of us.

I always wondered what my purpose in life was. Why was I born. I felt many times that I was wasting my life, and I was--back when! I don't worry about any of this anymore because I now know! My mother deserves to be happy, safe and secure for the first time in her life and now she is! She is no longer alone and hell I AM NO LONGER ALONE EITHER!!!!!!!!!

So guess that is it in a nut shell Sir Jack(a nickname of respect) My wishes and dreams. IMHO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Keep talking to me because you are causing me to think in areas I have not visited in a VERY LONG time and I like it. You are good therapy for me and I look forward to you input