Very good advice Anthony! I fully agree. And at the PTSD course in the women's sessions we were told one important lesson that I remember over all... PTSD is no excuse for bad behaviour...
Tammy

I haven't been to any PTSD course but IMHO there is no excuse for bad behaviour.

The minimum I expect is that my partner has enough respect for me to NOT treat me badly. If he doesn't well, see you later as I deserve better than that.

I agree. Well thus far he has NEVER done anything to hurt me until this whole not talking thing. He has never been that way but I will look out for it you know? I hope it never happens.

I kind of feel like a doormat now that I am being so loving and he has cut communication, yet he reads my mail and responds to others even briefly but then I think he may have goine through something and thinks it is best for me....I dont know. A couple of my friends who have been there say alot of soldiers try to protect the people they love most by cutting contact in case something happens to them. I dont get that but thats just something I have heard. All of this started with his anxiety though. Thanks you guys.

Myaleah why not take a break at the moment for yourself as well? It is very good to work these things out for yourself, well done. However you seem to be worrying quite a bit about what he is doing and thinking and so on. Carers also need a break, for our own mental health and happiness. Why not do something fun for yourself, with friends, or with your child (I believe I read you have a child?), go on an outing, buy yourself a gift, or whatever you are able to do. It can be tricky, however also important to not allow everything to revolve around the PTSD sufferer. You count too, and you deserve happiness.

I appreciate that. I have been spending alot of time with my son and taking care of him and also been going out with old friends from school some weekends to keep busy but he is always on my mind.....I wish not, lol

Yes, it is hard for a soldier to be away and have contact with their loved ones, purely because they miss them so much and those feeling often interrupt their own personal approach within such an operational environment. Trust me, first hand experience. I hated having to speak with family so far away, because it messed with me which I could not focus purely on the job and situation at hand. I wanted to get home in one piece, though by doing so you also risk losing what you have at home at the same time. No win as far as he will see it in his mind.

Yah I noticed that sometimes he would be like I need to sleep and wnated to get off quick and other times he was in better moods and wanted to chat and use the webcams. What I wonder is why is he talking to everyone, as minimal as he is and even though its short but not writing me a word. He reads them and leaves my comments but is almost trying to erase me from his mind, like when he moced my pics off his page and moved me off his top friends. I want to understand but it was not like him and so hurtful I just can't believe he hasnt said a word to me in almost 8 weeks. Did you pic one person to push completely away? The weird thing is that when I said, you are coming home for 18 days in Jan, we were supposed to be together...he was like"Oh well we can still spend time together" and he said he loved me too so to me, normally actions speak louder than words and he isnt acting like he loves me. He wrote our mutual friend back when she asked about his work but it was quick and then when she wrote him back and made comments about how great it was he and I found each other and how she can't wait to see us at our reunion he didnt write back again. It is like anything emotional or relationship wise he shuts off....

The simple answer Myaleah is that he believes not telling you is protecting you. Nothing you say to him will change this line of thought within him... he must work this out for himself. The more you push, the more he will run in order to feel as though he is protecting you from his pain.

Anthony, I am interested to know why it is that you keep warning about the cheating thing? Is this a common effect in PTSD sufferers who cut-off their partners, then those partners respect that need for space (As I have) and give it to them, then do they take this as permission to go out and cheat?