Don't beat yourself up - hairdressers would get this all the time.

I'm not a hairdresser but in my role as an account manager I would say at least 3 times a year I get someone break down in tears - usually about their child or a relationship breakup. I mean serious breakdown, that's not counting general tearing up and/or confiding personal information. I don't think anything of it, other then I hope they feel better soon & that I was able to offer them some comfort.

It's perfectly natural, and I think it's a positive thing that you were able to release some of the pent up tension & emotion. I hope your hairdresser was sensitive, and I hope you are enjoying your new haircut!

there's nothing i can say except i hope things turn out allright. you're in my thoughts. good luck & hugs,

v.

Thanks to everyone for listening. I think all of this crying has made me relax, and feel better (for now)

My hair dresser was very nice and understanding. She dominated most of the conversation with how bad her daughter is, but shed no tears, so that kept me from saying too much.

I guess crying in front of strangers is more common than I thought?

Tammy

Thank you for checking up with me. It really helps to know that there is at least one person who is really by my side in this whole mess.

Tammy

Tammy,
is there a time limit by which you have to reapply for disability this last time? I am asking because I do really want to do the best job I can to help you, and there's a very good probability that I will be in surgery next week, then I am going away until the first week in January if my body can take the travel. I have been really sick for the past two weeks. I have pancreatitis. To really form the strongest case, we will need more than a week to get a mountain of medical records, build a history, get a list of providers and sources who can verify your side of the story,
get records other than medical records (police, employment, etc.) to show patterns.
Don't give up!

Hi 2quilt, the letter states I have 60 days to appeal the denial (the denial date was 12-10-2007. Should I wait to submit the appeal until I have the medical records etc?

I'm sorry to hear about your pancreatitis. I had a ruptured pancreas with hemorrhaging when I was in a car accident, and could only eat a certain amount of fat a day. I had to take Vistiril everyday.

I really appreciate your help. Thanks a bunch.
Tammy

okay 60 days. I am probably going to have laproscopic surgery this weekend, to unblock the ducts, so I cant get email, so here's what I think you should do: read that article I wrote on how i got social security disability in 30 days in the entitlements area of the forum, then make a list of every doctor, therapist, social worker, police incident, roommate breakup, job firing, job quiting, court or legal battle, traffic violation, restraining order, ...get these things in a list. This may take a day or two to complete as you remember it all, so just keep adding to the list as you remember things. Get complete mailing addresses, phone numbers, fax numbers, dates that you saw these people or dates of the events.

Then you have to fill out the release forms so that records can be sent from the doctor or police or old job or wherever to the Agency that's going to Damnwell Award You Disability When We Get Through Here! So you need to call or go over there to the Agency and get those release forms now. In your reapplication you are going to list that you have sent requests for records to specific places so that the Agency knows to look for records in the mail.

Then you write your narrative, if the Agency has a place in the reapplication forms for you to do so, telling what happened when, in chronological order, how your illnesses progressed and you tried to hold jobs, show how you tried to hold jobs, list them, but that they did not work out and why not. Tell how your illness has stopped you from having quality of life. List your medications you have tried over the past ten years, if you can remember them, and list hospital stays if they involve your illness. Anything you can add to this that will show that you have tried to help yourself heal and you have tried to rejoin society, or not leave it in the first place, but that your illness keeps you from being a productive citizen, and that is devistating to you. Tell them that you have sought help, tell them when, list dates and specifics, and say whether or not it was successful. Dont leave anything out, go back as far as you can. I am sick, I will write more later.

I have a question, and hope not to thread jack here. Will this work for those of us who did service industry or are and have always been civilians? What if our attacker was acquitted? Do we qualify? Is it just military? Do you know who exactly I contact to find out? As hard as y'all have it it seems even harder for us to be counted. I did have jobs but most paid less than min. wage as I was relying on tips and had to report those. I only held a job I got paid full wages for about a year before I stopped working completely. I have not worked in 6 years. No welfare either of any sort but my husband's entire retirement is gone because of therapist, shrink, meds, and hospital bills. What if we get so confused we can't do paper work? I am just now getting prepped to get an updated SS card and DL so my son can get his DL (hub has to do paper work and walk me through). And it is the only reason. Is there really help available for my husband's finances? Or are we SOL?

HELL YES you qualify! You deserve disability benefits just as much whether you are civilian or military!
I don't know if SN is trying to get benefits from Social Security or Workman's Comp or VA or where, yet. But it doesn't matter, she deserves it. And so do you, Veiled! It also does not matter if the attacker was acquitted or not, as you know, there are innocent people in prison and there are sure as hell guilty ones outside! And it does not matter what jobs you had, how much those jobs paid, or how long they lasted, what matters is that they show a pattern of your illness. For example:
I worked a job for 5 months, but I did not get along with coworkers, so I got fired, that is documented, and I need those records sent to the Social Security office to bolster my case for PTSD. I tried to get another job as a receptionist part time, because I cant hold a full time job, and they offered me the job at one rate of pay at the interview, then, when I got my first paycheck, it was way short, and i complained, and they told me that they never promised me that rate, and unfortunantly, I didnot get that nicer payrate in writing, so I got screwed, and then they fired me because they decided that they only wanted me for full time, not part time. they were just screwing with me. So i reported all this to Soc Security. All this adds up. It's a pattern, it does not look good, does it? Well, it shows that I have a mental illness. I am not proud of it, but this is not the time to be proud, this is the time to get what we deserve. Advocate for yourself! I will help you! I am having my MRCP test in a few hours, then I find out when my surgery is going to be. I will keep you posted.

2quilt

2quilt
I have a question. My last job won't give any information on me except the date I started and the date I quit. (this was due to hospitalization) Should I send the old job a statement that they can give out information on my work history with them now? They don't like me because I collected unemployment from them, so they may do more harm than good.

I will start documenting things that go way back to 1992. I have a file at mental health so big that it weighs 5 lbs.

Also, I tried to get SS about 6 years ago and they told me I didn't qualify or it because I hadn't paid enough in, and that I have to work to gain a certain amount of money to be paid in. Therefore, I went and got a job because that was the only way I would qualify, which I lost. But kept getting jobs until I had a nervous breakdown. Now I qualify by having paid enough money into SS.

I don't understand their reasoning. If I'm sick and can't work how do they expect me to pay into SS in the first place to qualify?

If they hadn't made me get a job back then I wouldn't have had this nervous breakdown. (it was job related and that is documented in my last doctor files or it should be)

I'm going to PM you with some other questions.

Love you for this
Tammy