I try to give back, but I'm not sure that I'm educated enough (here) to give the correct answers at this point. I hope to stay and learn so that I can give back what was given, but this will take time, as I am a slow learner.

Grandma Herc, when something triggers you so bad maybe it is just best to take a break. I've read your posts and I care what you say. If I don't respond it's because I'm not sure of what to say. Surely you can understand this, as you were new here at one time.

I hope you feel better and enjoy the holidays.

Tammy

Tammy, no education needed! Just experience and in your time here you have so much to offer. You have already had ups and downs and realizations... That is what we are talking about. When you see someone in your shoes do not relate, try to light the path to self awareness. You have already walked further than you know and can light the way for others. Never think your experiences are not enough, no one should.

I did not intend to get everyone into such a huge and touchy debate. I must apoplgize for causing such turmoil. I do believe I was in a rather NASTY MOOD during this particular lack of judgement. So, sorry guys.

Anthony, I do not think that REMOVING OR SHUTTING DOWN THE FORUM during the holidays is wise. There are those of us who still need it during this stressful time. I do however think "we" need to be more mindful of the fact that some of us are alone or their trauma occurred during this time of the year. Wishing each other the happy greeting, etc. that goes with this season----well maybe we should not include them in our writings. Maybe we should just keep our posts to the point just like the rest of the year and eliminate any reference to the holidays.

I know that I have been guilty of sending people my holiday greeting without thinking of the circumstances they are in and that was really very thoughtless on my part.

Eliminating this from the forum may very well help ease the stress so of us feel. I was understandabley happy over the return of my daughter and the baby she brought with her and was sending holidays happiness to all of the people here on the forum. If I caused "1" single person "1" minute of saddness I am SO SORRY. I was simply overjoyed and wanted to share.

So let's just keep pur little world here GENERIC What do ya think???

Hey, feel free to wish me merry xmas!!!!! Merry Christmas to you!

Oh Veiled Thank You so much Merry Christmas. BUT, what do you think of the post? Is this an idea or was I wasting finger power typing?

For what it's worth...Merry Christmas, Bah Hum Bug, Happy New Year, and all the other stuff too. I guess with a forum of any amount of people, we can't please all of the people all of the time.

There are bound to be things that upset all of us at different times about different subjects.

Personally I was so so so happy for you Herc about your daughter, but sad because of my own situation. It had nothing to do with your situation, just brought on sad thoughts for me, but still happy for you. Can you understand that???? You had every right to shout out what had happened. Well that's just my opinion....

There are a lot of post that I feel upset/sad about. These are things that others have accomplished. Like finishing school, getting a degree or 2. I had to qiut college. Some are artist, I can't draw stick figures, it's embarrasing . But I am so happy when someone else fulfills their dreams or goals...


So I guess this is just going to happen with some of us sometimes. Some will get upset, some will not. It just depends where they are at the moment. With me. I get it out, then let it go.

Thank You Veiled. That was really nice to read right now, since I'm feeling pretty crappy.

I'm glad that I'm doing some good here for others and myself.

Tammy