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| | Notices | Welcome to PTSD Forum. Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is a life threatening, debilitating disorder that can break down a sufferer’s body through anxiety and stress. Further it poses a significant suicide risk resulting from the brains neurological imbalance and chemical depression. Sufferers often live in denial, thus this community is aimed at helping PTSD sufferers help themselves through others experiences, guidance and education. We are here for the sufferer, spouse and families surrounding PTSD. Spouses and family are too often forgotten in this equation, and often they receive all the worst that PTSD has to offer. If you're involved in any way with PTSD, get registered and help yourself now. Non-active members will eventually be deleted. If you are not a sufferer, carer or someone within the mental health industry, and active, then there is little reason for you to be a member of this forum. Non-active members with zero posts are deleted periodically during the year. |  | | 
03-01-2008, 12:11 PM
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Kathy. I am so sorry to hear you are struggling, but commend you on recognising it and taking the steps to look after yourself. There is no shame in that at all. Those of us who too often put others before ourselves tend to suffer that little bit more when it all gets on top of us, as we aren't used to taking care of number 1.
Have not noticed even a hint of rude or snappy. I couldn't even imagine your posts being like that.
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03-01-2008, 06:12 PM
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Kathy...I am sorry to hear you are having such a rough time. Please take good care of yourself...one day at a time. |
04-01-2008, 12:12 AM
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Originally Posted by hodge  I haven't seen any evidence of your being unpleasant on this forum in any way, though I understand how easy it is to get paranoid about that, since I get that way myself. | Thank you Hodge, and everyone else who has said I have not been unpleasant. I do worry about it as I definitely have been unpleasant with my family. However perhaps you are correct Hodge, in that I am just being paranoid.
I intend to write a bit more about this in time, however at the moment I haven't much to say. Perhaps after I start therapy. In any event, thank you all once more for the support. |
04-01-2008, 09:42 AM
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Kathy, the hardest part is now over for you.... in that you acknowledge the problem. Well done and now you may just be open to actually finding some resolve to what you feel. Your feelings are natural, not unnatural. I agree with you though, in that you must put all what you know professionally aside and listen to a therapist that suits your personality, so you can heal and not obscure yourself with your professional knowledge. I say that because those with the knowledge typically are not as open to being helped, though you have just endured that and learnt it isn't helping you. Well done Kathy and your starting the road to your own healing process. |
04-01-2008, 01:16 PM
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Kathy,
I remember when my mother went to grief therapy after my sister died it helped her a lot to deal with feelings she'd kept buried. I hope it helps you find some peace in your life.
Take care of yourself. Let those around you carry some of the weight you usually do. Concentrate on yourself.
Hugs
Lisa |
05-01-2008, 09:02 AM
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Don't know if it's a mother thing, or because Kathleen is a therapist. However. She has had far more difficulty with Brian's death than myself. Not to say I have no pain. Far from it. Sometimes though - I feel guilt over that aspect. Just don't seem to feel things quite as intensely as she.
Well done though my dear, on starting therapy. Pray it helps us both.
Jim. |
05-01-2008, 11:48 AM
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Kathy, I'm glad you are reaching out to get help. Therapy has helped me find a way to accept what I always thought was simply impossible to accept. I hope it can help you find a way to manage things, too. |
05-01-2008, 01:21 PM
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Originally Posted by Kathy Thank you Hodge, and everyone else who has said I have not been unpleasant. I do worry about it as I definitely have been unpleasant with my family. However perhaps you are correct Hodge, in that I am just being paranoid. | Dear Kathy, I dare say many of us know this paranoia well. I've been unpleasant with my husband on occasion, too (most recently, today, although I feel it went both ways this time). This is all an uphill battle. I just read a New Year's letter from a dear friend of mine and want to share this thought with you:
"As I pondered this scripture [from this past weekend, I assume] about light and darkness it struck me that it doesn’t say the darkness would dissipate but that light shines in it."
This thought helps me; I hope it helps you, too. |
06-01-2008, 04:41 PM
|  | | | Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: north of San Francisco, CA, U.S.A.
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Kathy,
You are obviously a strong person to recognize in yourself the need to seek help.
Be proud of yourself for that.
I haven't been on the forum much lately, and I don't remember reading anything about you losing Brian. I am sorry. I do believe he use to post here sometimes, didn't he?
I seem to remember that he would post to some responses that Evie wrote. My memory isn't what it use to be. Forgive me, if I am wrong.
You deal with so very many things in your life. I will say a prayer and hope this New Year can bring you happiness and good health to you and your family. to you & all your family
Donna
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06-01-2008, 11:51 PM
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Yes that's correct Donna, Brian used to post here occasionally. There was a thread regarding his death however I believe it didn't mention Brian specifically in the title, that is perhaps why you do not recall. Forgive me as I don't wish to go searching for it, too painful.
Thank you for the prayers and thoughts. I wish you the same happiness this year for you and your family. | | Thread Tools | | | | Display Modes |  Linear Mode | 
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