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Old 25-01-2008, 01:15 AM
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My son is deploying OS very shortly, and today we are saying good-bye to him, as he is going to spend the remainder of his time before deployment with his unit.

Being a military wife for many years, I am quite "seasoned" when it comes to the cycle of deployment. I cannot count the number of times Jim has been deployed prior to his retirement. Additionally I have other sons in the military who have been deployed more than once. Usually I take it in stride. However this time I seem to not be handling it well. I suspect it is because of my son Brian, who died as an indirect result of his combat PTSD. I am dealing with my issues surrounding Brian's death currently. I feel as though I simply cannot face another death, or the prospect of another person with PTSD in our family.

Additionally, it's been quite a well since I've seen such a young family member deployed. Colin is barely 20. Technically a man, however a boy still in many respects. He is very excited, this is his first time OS. He has no idea what he is getting himself into, and my heart aches for him. He is going to grow up extremely fast.

I haven't any idea what else to say, perhaps I simply needed to vent my feelings a bit. Frankly, I am not looking forward to the next few months. I am frightened.
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Old 25-01-2008, 01:36 AM
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I am really sorry you are having such a hard time right now...I am not sure what to say other than i know you and your family are very strong and you will get through this together.
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Kathy, I'm so sorry you're having a difficult time with your son's deployment. I don't know what you're going through as I do not have children in the military but I believe it must be harder on a mother than anyone else to send her son away. I'll be sure to keep him, as well as you and your family, in my prayers.
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I'm also having a hard time with this. I'm trying to stay positive about it, Dad gave me a pep talk and all, but I'm really scared for Colin too.
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Old 25-01-2008, 06:45 AM
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I feel for you all
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Old 25-01-2008, 07:09 AM
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We can stress together on this one Kathy! I said goodbye to my boy physically a couple of weeks ago he flies out about the 5th Feb.
He is still here in Aus doing training for the next couple of weeks.
But I wont be seeing him anymore before he goes.
I was a typical bawling Mum at the airport.
To both the boys!
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Kathy, Jim, Evie,
This is a hard time and I wish you all the best I can see your concern Kathy, and nothing I can say will make you feel better other than we are thinking of you , your family and Colin, soon I will be saying good by to some very dear friends as the ship out in Feb. I know you are all very close to each other and I hope that helps during this time. My thoughts and Prayers with you, as they are with you Jen.
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Thank you all. Jen and Mouse, I believe they are probably all leaving around the same time or close together. Colin has physically left us today however like your son Jen, he is remaining with his unit for a time before the actual deployment. We will not see him again until his return however. It is difficult however also good to know there are others with friends and family deploying, so we are not alone.

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Yes kisses to your son as well Jen and I was also the bawling mum this morning!
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