How Do I Ask My Partner to Join the Forum?

mightsurvive · #1 26-01-2008, 04:31 AM

hiya

I joined this site only several days ago and beginning to come round to the fact that it may be a very beneficil thing to ask my hubby to join. Beneficial to BOTH of us not just me. He doesnt talk about his feelings much but i know he worries about me. Maybe its time for him to get support too. Way past it actually. He doesnt know much about how things are for me and likewise, i dont know how he is handling things. I want to ask him to join or at least come as a guest.

but im anxious because i dont know how to make the first move in asking him.

Has any one got any advice about how to ask their partner to join

any stories about how they did it?

or do any carers have stories and advice about this site?

Look after yoursleves all

AmazonBelle · #2 26-01-2008, 04:36 AM

I emailed my husband a link and let him take it from there.

Jim · #3 26-01-2008, 04:40 AM

Well. I am here for my daughter. No grand story behind it. She asked, I said yes, here I am. ;-) Read for a while before posting anything. Perhaps ask your man to just read? Let him decide the rest, initially. Good luck.

Jim.

dljwhitewolf · #4 26-01-2008, 04:50 AM

Well, I got a letter in the mail that said, " I may have already won" and had to open it up to see what Ed McMann had to tell me.
Besides that, anyway that you would want to be asked, let him know how important this site is to you. If he wants to understand ptsd, he will join willingly.
Good Luck

Kathy · #5 26-01-2008, 04:58 AM

The email idea is a good one, and as my husband mentioned, simply ask. The worst that can happen is, your partner will say no.

As my husband says, we came here for our daughter. Again there was no particular story to it, I read here for quite a while before joining, then decided I also wanted to contribute, as my daughter was quite active here however not speaking to either of us much. She was fairly non-verbal at that time and communicated with us largely through the forum. A year later and she is much improved, her PTSD is managed far better and we speak to her offline for the most part now. However the forum was a tremendous help to us through the rough patches, and continues to be a source of support when we need it. I do hope your husband decides to join as there is much support and information to be had here.

mightsurvive · #6 26-01-2008, 05:56 AM

Thank you to each and everyone who has answered this post. Its great to hear it from the carer's point of view too. Email might be the easiest way for me to do this. scared he will say no but if i email him i will never have to know that he said no - he will either do it or he wont. So thanks again. Just got to pluck up the courage to do it. And i will. I have to. for BOTH of us.

Claire · #7 26-01-2008, 06:05 AM

I agree with what Jim said. I dont think he necessarily needs to join straight away. He may well find a lot of answers here too. Just take it steady. In my opinion the British stiff upper lip is still alive and well and as a nation we aren't good at talking about stuff. Blokes are even worse so I'd suggest it and then let him make the decision with no pressure.

batgirl · #8 26-01-2008, 06:15 AM

My parents already commented, but I'll just add something briefly. Like my father said, I just asked him. I said something along the lines of, "It would mean a lot to me if you would read the PTSD Forum". It worked, he came and read, then he joined later.

mightsurvive · #9 26-01-2008, 06:34 AM

Yeh Claire
I hear what youre saying. That stiff upper lip is alive and kicking hehehe. I dont want him to feel he HAS to join. And its completely his decission. Gawd this is weird - hes sitting right next to me lol. Screen is too far away for him to read though lol.

mightsurvive · #10 26-01-2008, 06:36 AM

Hiya Batgirl

Im so glad you mentioned this site to your parents. And very glad that this site has helped you and them work together as a team. Well done to all three of you.

Take care