Lisa, I agree. Veiled dragged the bec issue onto the forum, and that was the only reason I answered the limited aspects I did, as comes back to Evies post here regarding privacy, hence why members do not have an idea about the full scope, nor will from myself. Again, I only answered what I did due to my acknowledgement to members for open disclosure barring privacy issues.

No moderation is permanent, all members who get moderated can undo their own damage and its not by apologising or the like, its simply undoing what they did wrong in the first place. Prove otherwise, prove you can follow rules and work within the community and not against it as a whole.

A member won't go into moderation challenging me, arguing with me or telling me their two cents.... it all slides off me and I don't mind good healthy debate. What I do mind though is when an individual takes upon themselves to create or do their own thing outside of the forum general rules. This is why I minimised rules back to a bare basics level, so there are common rules that apply to us all, and outside of those go hard as I acknowledge what PTSD is and what it entails.

Very rarely would I ever ban someone, again, as mentioned in the bec thread I was the least likely person to do such, instead it was another who wanted to ban a person. Spammers get banned immediately, no issue with that one. A person who argues with me doesn't get banned or moderated. A person who comes on the forum as a troll, in other words, they try and disrupt the forum entirely towards all members, they will be moderated.

Members will typically not ever require to be moderated unless they break some basic rules, such as:

• Posting here in anger constantly
• Posting here when drunk or drugged constantly
• Posting here where the posts are so hard to read they disrupt thread topics
• Fail to comply with the basic rules of grammar, spelling, linking, etc.
• Lie, cheat or be deceptive in nature to me or members surrounding issues (not trauma therapy obviously)

No member need be an A+ speller, as you can use tools such as Firefox with a dictionary that will help you, thus negate the issue for the most part. I compensate for that, I provide links to the tools to help members who struggle in those areas, I have lessened rules to a bare minimum so the community as a whole is more relaxed and easy.

So in essence, very rare for a member to be moderated or banned, unless that member wants to be an individual and not follow simple community rules.

I voted yes and totally agree with Evie and Lisa. I too found the whole Bec thread a bit strange. I think we need openess to help with trust but not when it gets into a debate when no-one knows the all facts. Certainly not when it gets personal because its a waste of everyone's time and energy. I've felt this when others previously were banned or moderated. Ultimately though, it is your forum.

Thank you for the clear post outlining everything Anthony... very much appreciated.

Well, I think we have our answer with a 20 point lead. If it swings the other way at any stage, then it will change, until then.... open disclosure continues.

i think you do amazing job on this site ,i think whatever you doing you got reasons for that ,take me 20 years make decision sum up weigh up info and you can never ever please everyone i trusting you got peoples good intentions at heart and you know what works best whatever that vote is

I view open-disclosure the same as honest, mutual communication. As such, I think open-disclosure can only enhance the credibilty and integrity of the forum as it does in individuals, relationships, and even professional organizations. That being said, I would hope to see this forum carry this out in a manner in which is neither attacking nor defensive. That's my opinion which I don't give very often. As the saying goes, "The older I get, the less I know."

Humbly, tude

That's pretty much how I view it also Tude.... though I leave the option to members, as it is a community and I try to keep it as one with as much community input as possible where required. Majority rules....

This is not my playground...not my rules. If I play here I need to abide by the rules. If the rules get to be, what I consider, out of line...then I find another playground to play. Simple. At least to me.

Lisa

I voted for open disclosure and I believe that Marlene said it best.

I like the idea of open disclosure with discretion and sensitivity.